Living a healthier life. Being at ease in social situations. Boosting your levels of happiness. Performing better. Taking back your body confidence. Getting more positive attention. Knowing what you are worth. Setting the bar higher and achieving those goals. All of these come with a label that reads, “A benefit of self-confidence.” Flip these over, though, and you will quickly see how detrimental a lack of self-esteem can be and how effective it is at sabotaging your life.
However, the big issue still remains, and that is knowing exactly how to build your self-confidence up so high it is more impenetrable than the Wall in Game of Thrones.
Of course, it is important to note that self-confidence takes time and effort. You don’t just go to bed one night and then wake up feeling like Beyonce. It is something that needs to become a habit, and here is how.
Confidence: It Comes from How You Tell Yourself You Want To Feel
A psychologist will probably call this something like “positive affirmation,” but it is essentially just you talking to yourself in a positive way, using positive words that make you feel great about yourself. That’s the way you should feel about yourself.
Wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself you are amazing. Have breakfast and write the words, “I love myself.” Trust us, you will start believing it soon enough.
Fake It until You Make It
No one knows what they are doing, but those who speak in the most confident tones are the ones that we tend to believe, with the exclusion of Donald Trump because everyone knows he hasn’t got a clue. Faking it is just a matter of acting like you have the thing you want to have which, in this instance, is self-confidence.
Sure, this is going to feel pretty alien to begin with, but the more you repeat it the more natural it will become, and then one day, bam, you are going to realize you are the most confident woman alive.
Confidence comes from how you dress
There is no better way to give your confidence an immediate boost than dressing confidently. This starts with a smile because no outfit is complete without one. If you aren’t confident in your smile, then change that. Even visit Bloomfield Dental Designs if you have to. So long as you can lift your outfit with a smile, you will feel a million times better.
Suits, shirts, nice dresses, gorgeous shoes, powerful jewelry, envy-inducing bags. Sure, it might sound shallow but it works and that’s what matters.
Walk with Your Head High
The body language of a confident person is almost infectious and almost intimidating too. You wonder how they can be that full of self-esteem as they sit there with their head high, holding your gaze every time you talk, their shoulders back and back straight.
Well, it is just a matter of doing these things because the way we hold ourselves, influences the way we feel about ourselves. Body language is a huge part of this and something to work on as much as possible.
Top photo: She radiates body confidence. Photo via Pexels, CC0.
35 thoughts on “Confidence comes from one place… You”
I am so glad that I randomly selected this post! Loved it! Indeed helpful.
Well done, I love the Game of Throne reference.
love this! what a confidence boosting post. This is true and inspiring -love it. good read. Thanks, Confidencebykb
This article put a smile on my face after reading it, thank you and good work.
Very useful. The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you (John E. Southard) – thanks for the share!
I love this! Thank you for your tips. I wrote something similar 😌
the post was amazing! i want to suggest something that helped me to develop self-confidence. i wrote all my insecurities and tensions on pieces of paper then burned them. as the paper burned, my insecurities vanished along with it resulting in me with a enhanced confidence level.
Fantastic post… and helpful…!
Very beneficial advice!!
Such a motivational post
Great tips! I especially love how you mentioned that body language is so important when it comes to confidence. Appearing confident is half the battle! Even adjusting posture allows for deeper, fuller breaths, bringing more oxygen to the brain, reducing stress and anxiety. Such small tweaks turned into habits can do wonders for how we see ourselves. Thanks for shining some light on the topic!
Worthy advice my friend. Happiness comes from within. But how we take care of ourselves on the outside boosts our confidence levels. :) xx
Wonderful post. Love the fake it till you make it advice. Act as if! I always find if my hair is in good shape I feel better about myself, a real confidence booster 😀
I love this Christy. I think these are things you have developed in yourself. I have done some “faking it till I make it” myself.
I need to work on my posture!!!! All great thoughts, Christy.
I am currently faking it until I make it.. because I hear it becomes a habit.
This is so true — people who speak with confidence (minus Donald lol) are taken more seriously than those who don’t… good things to remember! :)
Another fantastic post, Christy! Thank you. :)
Very true my darling xxxxxxx
from the title I can see your point, and I know that is so true. Great tips to rise a confidence. The way we see ourselves, and others see us like that :)
“Fake it until you make it” really worked wonders for me !
Great post even I wrote about confidence last night Christy
You are so right . Thanks for the great insight .
powerful – “Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”
Great suggestions, Christy. Once you get that self confident fire going keep adding wood to the fire!
Faking it til you make it is sound advice considering many don’t always feel their best.
Great post, Christy!
YES! Wonderful advice. A topic I LOVE to write about as well.
Such a great post! Thanks for sharing :)
One of my lifelong struggles, Christy. I’ve had friends swear at me for not being more self-confident – lovingly frustrated.
so true –
This post is good advice. People tend to think of me as a confident person. I wish I were as secure as my outward appearance seems to show. I wonder how long it takes to become confident at something if your goal is to be good at it? Again, a guy reading a post intended for women.