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Confidence Comes From One Place… You


Living a healthier life. Being at ease in social situations. Boosting your levels of happiness. Performing better. Taking back your body confidence. Getting more positive attention. Knowing what you are worth. Setting the bar higher and achieving those goals. All of these come with a label that reads, “A benefit of self-confidence.” Flip these over, though, and you will quickly see how detrimental a lack of self-esteem can be and how effective it is at sabotaging your life.

However, the big issue still remains, and that is knowing exactly how to build your self-confidence up so high it is more impenetrable than the Wall in Game of Thrones.

Of course, it is important to note that self-confidence takes time and effort. You don’t just go to bed one night and then wake up feeling like Beyonce. It is something that needs to become a habit, and here is how.

Tell Yourself How You Want To Feel

A psychologist will probably call this something like “positive affirmation,” but it is essentially just you talking to yourself in a positive way, using positive words that make you feel great about yourself. That’s the way you should feel about yourself.

Wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself you are amazing. Have breakfast and write the words, “I love myself.” Trust us, you will start believing it soon enough.

Fake It until You Make It

No one knows what they are doing, but those who speak in the most confident tones are the ones that we tend to believe, with the exclusion of Donald Trump because everyone knows he hasn’t got a clue. Faking it is just a matter of acting like you have the thing you want to have which, in this instance, is self-confidence.

Sure, this is going to feel pretty alien to begin with, but the more you repeat it the more natural it will become, and then one day, bam, you are going to realize you are the most confident woman alive.

Dress with Confidence

There is no better way to give your confidence an immediate boost than dressing confidently. This starts with a smile because no outfit is complete without one. If you aren’t confident in your smile, then change that. Even visit Bloomfield Dental Designs if you have to. So long as you can lift your outfit with a smile, you will feel a million times better.

Suits, shirts, nice dresses, gorgeous shoes, powerful jewelry, envy-inducing bags. Sure, it might sound shallow but it works and that’s what matters.

Walk with Your Head High

The body language of a confident person is almost infectious and almost intimidating too. You wonder how they can be that full of self-esteem as they sit there with their head high, holding your gaze every time you talk, their shoulders back and back straight.

Well, it is just a matter of doing these things because the way we hold our self, influences the way we feel about ourselves. Body language is a huge part of this, and something to work on as much as possible.



  1. Gaston Nova September 27, 2017

    This post is good advice. People tend to think of me as a confident person. I wish I were as secure as my outward appearance seems to show. I wonder how long it takes to become confident at something if your goal is to be good at it? Again, a guy reading a post intended for women.

  2. ksbeth September 27, 2017

    so true –

  3. John Fioravanti September 27, 2017

    One of my lifelong struggles, Christy. I’ve had friends swear at me for not being more self-confident – lovingly frustrated.

  4. Nour Khalil September 27, 2017

    Such a great post! Thanks for sharing :)

  5. inkgirlandwords September 27, 2017

    YES! Wonderful advice. A topic I LOVE to write about as well.

  6. Eliza Waters September 27, 2017

    Great post, Christy!

  7. Tony Burgess September 27, 2017

    Faking it til you make it is sound advice considering many don’t always feel their best.

  8. syl65 September 27, 2017

    Great suggestions, Christy. Once you get that self confident fire going keep adding wood to the fire!

  9. mihrank September 27, 2017

    powerful – “Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”

  10. amazingadrienne September 27, 2017

    Great post

  11. motherofangels3 September 27, 2017

    You are so right . Thanks for the great insight .

  12. richa pandey September 27, 2017

    Great post even I wrote about confidence last night Christy

  13. Megala September 28, 2017

    “Fake it until you make it” really worked wonders for me !

  14. Ben Aqiba September 28, 2017

    Hi Christy,

    from the title I can see your point, and I know that is so true. Great tips to rise a confidence. The way we see ourselves, and others see us like that :)

  15. shehannemoore September 28, 2017

    Very true my darling xxxxxxx

  16. Natalie Ducey September 28, 2017

    Another fantastic post, Christy! Thank you. :)

  17. dawnwairimu September 28, 2017

    This is so true — people who speak with confidence (minus Donald lol) are taken more seriously than those who don’t… good things to remember! :)

  18. queenmouse September 28, 2017

    I am currently faking it until I make it.. because I hear it becomes a habit.

  19. Resa September 28, 2017

    I need to work on my posture!!!! All great thoughts, Christy.

  20. vivachange77 September 28, 2017

    I love this Christy. I think these are things you have developed in yourself. I have done some “faking it till I make it” myself.

  21. Sparkling Dawn September 29, 2017

    Wonderful post. Love the fake it till you make it advice. Act as if! I always find if my hair is in good shape I feel better about myself, a real confidence booster 😀

  22. dgkaye September 29, 2017

    Worthy advice my friend. Happiness comes from within. But how we take care of ourselves on the outside boosts our confidence levels. :) xx

  23. The Melanated Maven September 30, 2017

    Great tips! I especially love how you mentioned that body language is so important when it comes to confidence. Appearing confident is half the battle! Even adjusting posture allows for deeper, fuller breaths, bringing more oxygen to the brain, reducing stress and anxiety. Such small tweaks turned into habits can do wonders for how we see ourselves. Thanks for shining some light on the topic!

  24. Author: Sadaf Siddiqi September 30, 2017

    Such a motivational post

  25. Amber Glow October 5, 2017

    Very beneficial advice!!

  26. kedawithani October 5, 2017

    Fantastic post… and helpful…!

  27. Mahi Fayed Haque October 8, 2017

    Hi Christy
    the post was amazing! i want to suggest something that helped me to develop self-confidence. i wrote all my insecurities and tensions on pieces of paper then burned them. as the paper burned, my insecurities vanished along with it resulting in me with a enhanced confidence level.

  28. Invincible Butterfly October 16, 2017

    I love this! Thank you for your tips. I wrote something similar 😌

  29. Kedy October 25, 2017

    Very useful. The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you (John E. Southard) – thanks for the share!

  30. Tanja Stoeski November 1, 2017

    This article put a smile on my face after reading it, thank you and good work.

  31. confidencebykb November 26, 2017

    love this! what a confidence boosting post. This is true and inspiring -love it. good read. Thanks, Confidencebykb

  32. I fly high! December 5, 2017

    Love it!

  33. sarishboo December 21, 2017

    Well done, I love the Game of Throne reference.

  34. zoeshades December 30, 2017

    I am so glad that I randomly selected this post! Loved it! Indeed helpful.

  35. hramirez81 February 16, 2018



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