Confidence Comes From One Place… You

This woman has high self-esteem

She radiates body confidence. Photo via Pexels, CC0.

Living a healthier life. Being at ease in social situations. Boosting your levels of happiness. Performing better. Taking back your body confidence. Getting more positive attention. Knowing what you are worth. Setting the bar higher and achieving those goals. All of these come with a label that reads, “A benefit of self-confidence”. Flip these over, though, and you will quickly see how detrimental a lack of self-esteem can be and how effective it is at sabotaging your – not to be dramatic but – life.

However, the big issue still remains, and that is knowing exactly how to build your self-confidence up so high it is more impenetrable than the Wall in North in Game of Thrones (spoiler alert) before the latest series aired.

Of course, it is important to note that self-confidence takes time and effort. You don’t just go to bed one night and then wake up feeling like Beyonce. It is something that needs to become a habit, and here is how:

Tell Yourself How You Want To Feel

A psychologist will probably call this something like ‘positive affirmation’, but it is essentially just you talking to yourself in a positive way, using positive words that make you feel great about yourself – the way you should feel about yourself. Wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself you are amazing. Have breakfast and write the words, “I love myself.” Trust us, you will start believing it soon enough.

Fake It Until You Make It

No one knows what they are doing, but those who speak in the most confident tones are the ones that we tend to believe (with the exclusion of Donald Trump because everyone knows he hasn’t got a clue). Faking it is just a matter of acting like you have the thing you want to have which, in this instance, is self-confidence. Sure, this is going to feel pretty alien to begin with, but the more you repeat it the more natural it will become, and then one day – bam – you are going to realize you are the most confident woman alive.

Dress With Confidence

There is no better way to give your confidence an immediate boost than dressing confidently. This starts with a smile because no outfit is complete without one. If you aren’t confident in your smile, then change that. Even visit Bloomfield Dental Designs if you have to. So long as you can lift your outfit with a smile you will feel a million times better. Suits, shirts, nice dresses, gorgeous shoes, powerful jewelry, envy-inducing bags – it may sound shallow but it works and that’s what matters.

Walk With Your Head High

The body language of a confident person is almost infectious and almost intimidating. You wonder how they can be that full of self-esteem as they sit there with their head high, holding your gaze every time you talk, their shoulders back and back straight. Well, it is just a matter of doing these things because the way we hold our self, influences the way we feel about ourselves. Body language is a huge part of this, and something you should work on as much as possible.

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29 thoughts on “Confidence Comes From One Place… You

  1. This post is good advice. People tend to think of me as a confident person. I wish I were as secure as my outward appearance seems to show. I wonder how long it takes to become confident at something if your goal is to be good at it? Again, a guy reading a post intended for women.

  2. Great tips! I especially love how you mentioned that body language is so important when it comes to confidence. Appearing confident is half the battle! Even adjusting posture allows for deeper, fuller breaths, bringing more oxygen to the brain, reducing stress and anxiety. Such small tweaks turned into habits can do wonders for how we see ourselves. Thanks for shining some light on the topic!

  3. Hi Christy
    the post was amazing! i want to suggest something that helped me to develop self-confidence. i wrote all my insecurities and tensions on pieces of paper then burned them. as the paper burned, my insecurities vanished along with it resulting in me with a enhanced confidence level.

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