No matter who you are, you want your children to experience success and happiness in life. But, the skills they need to achieve this are not entirely innate. As a parent, there are things that you can do and teach them to ensure they are prepared for when they fly the nest and begin a life of their own. To raise successful kids, what are the major life skills to teach kids? They are:
Be themselves
Everyone is told to be themselves in life, but it’s not enough to merely be, your kids will need to learn who they are before this is possible. During their childhood and teen years, they will find influences everywhere, from family to friends to the media, and all of these will shape who they become as adults.
And this might mean that they put on a facade of who they think they should be, rather than who they actually are. You can learn how to encourage your kids to become comfortable in themselves. They will have no apologies for who they are.
The ability to be comfortable in themselves is one of the most useful tools around. It will come from teaching them to understand who they are.
Learning independence
It’s an instinct to look after your kids at all times, even when they are old enough to look after themselves. Parents can teach their kids independence from an early age, whether by encouraging them to get a job or help them find college counseling which will give them a taste of freedom.
You won’t want to abandon your child completely, and you’ll always be there for them in some manner. But giving your kids the tools to take care of themselves in life will teach them how to overcome problems and support themselves without any assistance.
Showing compassion is another life skill to teach kids
Compassion is something everyone needs in life. The ability to look out for others and help those in need – whether human or animal – helps mold a well-adjusted individual who understands the plight of others.
There are many ways to teach your kids to be compassionate and about charity. Exposure to literature that challenges and preconceived notions will benefit them, while volunteer work is also useful. This can also teach your kids the value of time and hard work, and show that not everyone is as fortunate as they are.
You can also create a home environment that values communication. Being able to talk about their feelings will help your kids learn more about themselves and be capable of understanding other viewpoints.
Accepting failure
The idea that failure is the worst thing ever is an outdated belief. It might sound contradictory, but your children won’t be able to ensure success if they do not experience and accept failure.
No one can go through life winning every step of the day. Their first exposure to failure will show that there is nothing to be scared of. Rather than see it as a comment on their ability, they can take it as a learning experience. This understanding will prepare them to succeed in the near future.
Feeling safe
The ability to keep your family safe is something every parent looks for, whether at home, school, or while on vacation. A child that feels safe will have the confidence to go out into the world ready to try anything they please. This can create a curious nature that will encourage success later in life.
But, you must be careful not to coddle your child or become a helicopter parent. While you might think you’re doing well by them, it could cause them to feel suffocated.
They might also feel like you don’t trust them. Instead, you’ll need to find a balance between safety and trust.
More life skills to teach kids: Money management
Money management is useful at every stage of life. When your son or daughter is younger, you might teach them the value of money through chores. Especially if they want to save up to buy something.
This should be an introduction to financial literacy, and you mustn’t consider it a completed lesson. Financial intelligence is still important, especially for teenagers after getting their first job.
You know that they will need to save up for a car, house, or for emergencies in the future. So, teaching them how to be sensible with their money will encourage good money-saving (and spending) habits. That could save them from many financial problems when they get older.
On success, kids, and teaching life skills
Success doesn’t have to mean making millions and living in a huge house by the ocean. Everyone has a different definition of what success means to them. Still, teaching your children these skills will enable them to achieve success in life. No matter what they consider success to be.
We cocoon so much our children that they are fearful to do a step without approval. Love your article and great advices, thank you.
Yes, teaching fear is something that is happening in many families, without realizing it…
Such an important post Christy! Failure is something that terrifies some parents, even though I’m sure they’ve had their share of failures along the way. Most likely, they learned from them, much more than the little successes.
You’re right that there’s a lot to learn from failures, Dorothy! They’re not really failures in that sense but instead opportunities to learn and grow x