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We’re Getting Married! What Type of Wedding will it be?

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I said yes! That’s right, we’re getting married! If you follow me on Instagram or we’re friends on Facebook, then you’ve likely already seen the pics already. But I know some of you solely through blogging or another social network, such as Twitter, so I’m excited to share the announcement here too. And now that we’ve had a celebratory engagement party, we’re entering the planning process. And with that comes our thoughts on having a traditional type of wedding.

With so many options out there, we’re still making decisions on the exact venue, date, and guest list. But here’s what we know so far, and I hope that sharing how we are making these decisions will help you or someone close to you with wedding details.

Disclosure: I’m happy to collaborate with Confetti and Prom Dress Finder today to bring you this sponsored post that includes announcing I’m getting married!

Plan Together: It’s a Joint Effort

If you’ve been following this blog for a while now, you know already that I’m all about respecting your partner. And the relationship Aureleo and I have is no exception. My fiancé (oooh I’m still getting used to saying that!) often says that he loves how he can trust my decisions. And when it’s something that affects us both, we always check with one another before jumping into it.

Recently, my favorite thing about our relationship is that we both are planning for the wedding. For example, Aureleo set an appointment for us in early January to meet with a manager at a hotel where we’re considering holding our reception. And I’ve already started looking a places to get flowers at an affordable price, as well as alternatives to flowers for table centerpieces to further lower wedding costs.

It’s wonderful not to be the only one doing the planning for the type of wedding we’ll have soon. My fiancé says that he’s happy for me to take the reins on some aspects of the event and he will also handle certain things. We’re in this together, and I love that; it’s symbolic of what our married life will be like. The vision makes me happy.

Gender Roles and Relationships

The days of women being the only one expected to plan the whole wedding are hopefully behind us – unless, of course, a female chooses that, and then I say go for it. But it’s time to stop having these gender stereotypes of what the woman’s role is in the relationship and the same goes for the man’s role. If the couple decides that the guy is going to plan the whole thing, then I’m cheering him on!

For us, it’s best if we each do parts of the planning as we have careers and other commitments. By divvying up the workload, we can hopefully both have time at the end of the day to relax, at least until our family grows (his sister will love reading that!). And, of course, we’ll make the big decisions together, such as the wedding date. We currently envision a fall wedding in 2019.

I said yes and we're having a traditional type of wedding

We’re getting married!

A Traditional Type of Wedding for Us

While the two of us are so over the idea of traditional gender roles, we are planning a traditional type of wedding. Hear me out! Traditional refers to decor and activities. Getting married this way suits our classic taste; we’re not into most trends. Part of what this means is that I’m going to be looking at a long white wedding dress.

And to my bridesmaids: don’t worry that you’ll be in a horrific dress you’d never wear again – I’ll choose pretty ones like at Prom Dress Finder that you can wear to a fancy party in the future. Then you’ll get more use out of it. I’ll also make sure that you actually like the dress. Aureleo and I joked about a zombie ceremony where everyone dresses like Walking Dead, but that’s not really us!

We see our wedding as being:

  • 100 guests or less
  • Small wedding party
  • Hotel reception
  • Indoor ceremony
  • Sit-down dinner…
  • …Followed by a dance party
  • Classic floral bouquets
  • Tiered wedding cake
  • White wedding dress
  • Black tux or suit

At the moment, we are undecided if our traditional type of wedding ceremony will be in a church or a hall. While some members of our family are religious, others are not. I believe in God but do not go to church, for personal reasons. Aureleo does not attend church regularly either.

Brainstorming Locations

There are many great options for where to have the ceremony when it’s a traditional type of wedding. In fact, there’s so many that it’s a bit overwhelming. Thankfully we have close to a year before the big day, so we’re hopeful that we’ll get the one that best for us. To make it easier too there are sites with planning tips, venues, dresses, and more, all in one place, so you can see possibilities at a glance. Click here for details.

As for the reception, we are thinking it’ll be at a hotel or ballroom. As I mentioned earlier, we have an appointment in early January at a fancy local hotel to see if we like what they have to offer and whether it fits our budget. Food-wise, it will be a catered sit-down meal.

Big Decisions Coming Up

Within the next month, we will decide the exact date for our traditional type of wedding, as well as determining the reception venue. We have to finalize the guest list too. We also hope to have a final decision by then as to whether it will be a church ceremony or not.

I will post updates as wedding planning progresses; my goal is to share what I learn to help make the journey easier for other brides. And I hope to learn lots of budgeting tips along the way!

Oh, and did I mention we plan to move in the New Year from our condo to a house? Soooo big changes ahead and I’ll be blogging about them. I hope you’ll join me on the adventures in house hunting and getting married!

Do you have any wedding planning tips to share? What type of wedding did you have or would you like to have one day?

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99 Comments

  1. alexraphael December 14, 2018

    Congrats. Congrats. Such great news I say it twice!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      You… are awesome!

    2. alexraphael December 15, 2018

      Aww thanks. Right back at you both

    3. Christy B December 23, 2018

      :D

  2. sonofabeach96 December 14, 2018

    Congrats! Good for y’all. May you be blessed with love and longevity!

    As for what type of wedding we had? Small, about 40 people. On the beach, on a little Florida Gulf coastal island, at a small mom and pop hotel. All family and wedding party had the entire place, ceremony on the beach at sunset, and the reception on-site in the courtyard. Had originally thought of the traditional wedding, lots of guests, big reception. Glad we went simple.

    Good luck in the planning. It becomes all-consuming, so don’t forget to have fun. 😊😊

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Some of the most beautiful weddings I’ve been to have been the smallest ones. I love that your ceremony was on a beach at sunset – so romantic! Have fun, you say ~ YES!

    2. sonofabeach96 December 15, 2018

      😊😊

  3. Brendan Birth December 14, 2018

    Yay! Congrats!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Thanks, Brendan!

    2. Brendan Birth December 15, 2018

      You’re welcome!!!

  4. syl65 December 14, 2018

    So exciting to read this and looking forward to more updates! Congratulations to you both!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Aw, I wasn’t sure whether to post updates here but really so nice to read the outpouring of support in the comments, including from you, my blessed brother. :)

    2. syl65 December 16, 2018

      I’m glad you did, sister dear 🤗 You have a ton of support and friends that are happy for you. Always have my support 😊

    3. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Your words are wonderful, brother :D

    4. syl65 December 23, 2018

      😊

  5. produsenalatolahraga December 14, 2018

    Great!!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      :D

  6. Matras Olahraga December 14, 2018

    Greattt

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      We’re happy to have such beautiful feedback here!

  7. ksbeth December 14, 2018

    huge congrats!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      :D :) ;)

  8. Terri, Reclaiming HOPE December 14, 2018

    Congratulations Christy – I’m so happy for you both! Wishing you many, many years of love and happiness!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Hi Terri, you’re a sweetie and I appreciate your saying that!

  9. popsiclesociety December 14, 2018

    Congratulations 💕

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Big smile :)

  10. Rajagopal December 15, 2018

    I am not on Facebook and Instagram so this is happy news for me from your end. Mine was, what is called an ‘arranged marriage’ in India, where the whole thing is planned and executed by parents and elders from both sides. All I had to do was just see the girl and give my consent (same from girl’s side too) for the arrangements to start rolling and fall in place within a six month period. In India a lot of money gets blown in the name of wedding as the guest list often ranges from 700 to 1500. The latest trend here is ‘destination’ weddings (venue is either an exotic place or a heritage building) where the entire event is professionally organised by event management companies. Here is wishing you all the thrills that go with preparations for a happy wedded life.🌸

    Reply
    1. momlifewithchiari December 15, 2018

      Thank you for sharing that. Truly astonishing as to the guest count.
      If you don’t mind me asking, are you both still married?

    2. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Wow, that’s a big wedding! We considered a destination wedding but decided against it for a few reasons. Thank you for such kind words, Raj!

  11. terihagh December 15, 2018

    I am so happy to see people get happily married. so I am happy for you and wish you the best

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      ((Hugs))

  12. momlifewithchiari December 15, 2018

    Congratulations! Many blessings to you both!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      So nice – and thanks for being here!

    2. momlifewithchiari December 16, 2018

      You’re welcome Christy

    3. Christy B December 23, 2018

      xxoo

  13. Rebecca Sullivan December 15, 2018

    Huge congratulations 💜💜

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Feeling blessed xx

  14. Invisibly Me December 15, 2018

    What’s wrong with a zombie-themed ceremony? I think that should be kept as a back-up plan B ;)
    I like the sound of Bridesmaids having nice dresses that are more multi-purpose as it’s always a shame I think these sorts of things are really a one-time use.
    Sounds like you & Aureleo will be kept busy with your planning, but I love your initial thoughts on it. Hopefully it’ll all go well within the next month for you two to get a few things pencilled in and the main decisions made! Enjoy!!
    Caz xx

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Haha okay maybe we’ll reconsider the zombie plan ;) Thanks for taking time here as I know you’re busy too. Sending a hug this weekend and beyond!

    2. Laura Beth December 17, 2018

      I let my ladies pick their dresses – My only input was floor-length and a rough color. Each dress was unique, and beautiful. Plus, several of them have worn their dresses more than once to other events and celebrations.

  15. Indira December 15, 2018

    Wow! Congrats. So happy for you. Wish you all the best.

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      :D

  16. Liz December 15, 2018

    Congratulations. :) Xxx

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      You know I’m smiling :)

  17. Alexis Rose December 15, 2018

    Congratulations!!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Thanks!

  18. AmyRose🌹 December 15, 2018

    Congratulations, Christy!! I wish for you and your fiancé many joy filled years together!! 💞

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Ohhhh that’s a lovely sentiment, Amy Rose <3

  19. thelonelyauthorblog December 15, 2018

    Congrats

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Thanks :)

  20. milfordstreet December 15, 2018

    Congratulations Christy. Cheers!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Thanks Chris, it’s an exciting time!

  21. Anna (apeaceoflife) December 15, 2018

    Congratulations! 🎉🎉🎉🎈🎈💍

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Awww :) Happy dance!

  22. Jeff December 15, 2018

    Congratulations!!!! I’m so happy for you!!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Thanks Jeff :D

  23. Melissa Seifrit December 15, 2018

    Congratulations my friend! So excited for you and your future whatever it holds. HUGE HUGS

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      BIG hugs!! Thank you, hooded sis.

  24. ghostwritingplus December 15, 2018

    How delightful that you’re keeping us all in the loop, Christy, I enjoy hearing about your future plans! I am thrilled for you and Aureleo and your families!!!!!!!! <3 <3 <3

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Oh sweet Graciela. You’re an angel. xo

  25. Peggy Woods December 15, 2018

    Congratulations to you both! We had a very small church wedding and just about everything went wrong but we still laugh about it 48 years later! Hope you enjoy the upcoming events and hope things go smoothly for you. If they don’t…you might also be able to laugh about it years later like we do.

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 15, 2018

      Haha sometimes when things don’t go quite as planned they turn into the most special of events! Congratulations on 48 years, Peggy :)

  26. RJ December 16, 2018

    Congrats! 😊

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Thanks RJ!

  27. Megala December 16, 2018

    Congratulations, Christy! I’m so delighted hear this good news, wishing you both a lifetime of love and happiness!!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Aw, Megala ~ Very sweet :D

  28. Willow Croft December 16, 2018

    Holy cow! Congratulations! I know nothing about weddings or planning or anything like that so I’ll keep quiet on that–despite the fact that Virgos LOVE to give advice! (but I am a sucker for historic sites and museums as event locations LOL).

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Ohhhh I could see that if you were the wedding planner that there would be a historic slant on the wedding theme ;)

    2. Willow Croft December 24, 2018

      Lol. Which is why I’m probably not a wedding planner. “Stick around for the history lecture after the reception!” ZZZZZZ Ha!

    3. Christy B January 5, 2019

      Giggling ;)

  29. Inspiredtobreathe December 16, 2018

    Congrats love…I feel like I know you since I see and read your blog every day. But you are so inspirational. Best wishes to you and your boo!!! Work it girl!!!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 18, 2018

      Oh dear you, thank you!! May your holidays be amazing xo

    2. Christy B December 23, 2018

      You’re awesome, truly.

  30. dgkaye December 16, 2018

    I’m so happy for you both Christy. I wish you both so much love and happiness and a beautiful life together. <3

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Oh Debby, your words warm my heart xo

    2. dgkaye December 24, 2018

      <3 xx

  31. countryheartspark December 16, 2018

    Congratulations. You deserve great happiness and enjoy planning your life together.

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Aw, your words are lovely to read today!!

  32. Laura Beth December 17, 2018

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you and your fiance!

    For Al and I, we got engaged on Christmas Day in 2014. I knew I wanted to marry him in 2015, so we set our date for November 14, 2015. My mom was ready to lose her mind, trying to plan her only child’s wedding in 11 months. But, the best thing we ever did was have a wedding planner. The best friend of our now-sister-in-law, Crystal runs such a tight ship with her business, but it was so much fun simultaneously. Having Crystal help plan and coordinate the entire day was such a life-saver! About thirty minutes before the wedding started, I sat down in my dress and looked around. I wasn’t stressed, I was just happy the day had come. I asked when time it was, and my best friend and maid of honor said 10;30. I laughed and said, “Can we fast-forward 25 minutes? I’m ready to do this!”

    It was stressful in other ways – Seating charts! For our guest list, we were limited by reception space – 150 people max. We ended up having 102 total – 100 guests and the two of us. It was magical, and perfect. It was very traditional – Church ceremony, semi-formal reception at a beautiful country club. Everyone got dolled up and it was awesome! We got so many compliments on how the reception was so much fun, one of the most fun weddings they had been to. Plus, since our wedding was at 11:00 a.m., everyone went home by 5:00 p.m.!

    Again, congratulations! Best wishes as you start this new chapter together!

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Thanks Laura Beth for sharing about your special day – I love that you got to relax after that 5pm end! It sounds like a wedding planner was a MUST for you and Al ~ I’ll consider one too as there’s little extra time some days with career and other commitments. Your hubby is lucky to have you!!

    2. Laura Beth December 24, 2018

      You’re welcome! Our wedding planner was one of the BEST decisions we made. It saved my relationship with my mom, if anything else! We have recommended her to everyone we know. She also plans events and parties – She’s on retainer for my husband’s company’s holiday party now! We are lucky to have each other. It’s hard to believe he proposed four years ago tomorrow!

    3. Christy B January 5, 2019

      Oh wow that wedding planner sounds amazing ~ and so glad she’s helping your husband’s company now too :D I love it when someone rocks their career, which is sounds like she’s doing! Aw, you are 4 years in and so happy to hear you’re loved xo

    4. Laura Beth January 6, 2019

      She is amazing! Crystal works her butt off, but she always has a smile and hug ready. I can’t believe it’s been four years almost!

  33. Jeri Walker (@JeriWB) December 17, 2018

    Congrats on so many levels! I’m so happy for you, and it’s awesome that you’ll be moving into a house :)

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      xxoo Hugs. Thanks for your support over the years, Jeri. We’ve both shared so much online and having one another’s love means a lot, you and I.

  34. Amy Caudill December 19, 2018

    Congratulations, Christy! From your descriptions of the plans you’re making together, it seems that you have a good basis for a very strong, enduring relationship. I wish you and Aureleo all the best.

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Thank you, Amy. I only hope to have the happiness that my parents share xo

  35. myexpressionofthoughtsblog December 21, 2018

    Congratulations and lovely the way you shared the post

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Aw, so kind :)

  36. Sageleaf December 22, 2018

    Can’t wait to hear, see, and witness your adventures together. :) When I got married (egads…listen to me..that makes me sound old and I’m not!) I was a wee lass, just out of college. The internet in the early 2000s was still Internet 1.0. Wedding planning articles were scant. Haha. How fun that you have so many ideas and options!
    I’m so happy for you! I wish you a wonderful engagement. And I wish you a wonderful life together!! :)

    Reply
    1. Christy B December 23, 2018

      Oh C, you’re always bringing so much spirit and love here in your comments! Thank you for the well wishes ~ and YES the Internet will be a huge help to us for tips on all sorts of things during the planning stages. I am cheering you and hubby ~ wishing you two a lifetime of happiness too :)

  37. ShaneeYafe January 5, 2019

    Hello there! CONGRATS!!!!!! I also am recently engaged, and am COMPLETELY overwhelmed by all the things I do not know how to do. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and process, I will definitely be checking in again for more of your advice.

    Reply
    1. Christy B January 5, 2019

      Ok YES stay tuned and I’ll keep sharing to help… Congrats on getting engaged too! I think so far the secret is to look at it piece by piece rather than mounting up all the to-dos’s as that would absolutely be overwhelming xo

  38. SuperDuque January 10, 2019

    Congrats! dear Christy, my best wishes on your wedding of happiness..

    Reply
    1. Christy B January 11, 2019

      Thanks for the supportive words and likes, my friend! Have a great weekend ahead :)

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