I said yes! That’s right, we’re getting married! If you follow me on Instagram or we’re friends on Facebook, then you’ve likely already seen the pics already. But I know some of you solely through blogging or another social network, such as Twitter, so I’m excited to share the announcement here too. And now that we’ve had a celebratory engagement party, we’re entering the planning process. And with that comes our thoughts on having a traditional type of wedding.
With so many options out there, we’re still making decisions on the exact venue, date, and guest list. But here’s what we know so far, and I hope that sharing how we are making these decisions will help you or someone close to you with wedding details.
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Plan Together: It’s a Joint Effort
If you’ve been following this blog for a while now, you know already that I’m all about respecting your partner. And the relationship Aureleo and I have is no exception. My fiancé (oooh I’m still getting used to saying that!) often says that he loves how he can trust my decisions. And when it’s something that affects us both, we always check with one another before jumping into it.
Recently, my favorite thing about our relationship is that we both are planning for the wedding. For example, Aureleo set an appointment for us in early January to meet with a manager at a hotel where we’re considering holding our reception. And I’ve already started looking a places to get flowers at an affordable price, as well as alternatives to flowers for table centerpieces to further lower wedding costs.
It’s wonderful not to be the only one doing the planning for the type of wedding we’ll have soon. My fiancé says that he’s happy for me to take the reins on some aspects of the event and he will also handle certain things. We’re in this together, and I love that; it’s symbolic of what our married life will be like. The vision makes me happy.
Gender Roles and Relationships
The days of women being the only one expected to plan the whole wedding are hopefully behind us – unless, of course, a female chooses that, and then I say go for it. But it’s time to stop having these gender stereotypes of what the woman’s role is in the relationship and the same goes for the man’s role. If the couple decides that the guy is going to plan the whole thing, then I’m cheering him on!
For us, it’s best if we each do parts of the planning as we have careers and other commitments. By divvying up the workload, we can hopefully both have time at the end of the day to relax, at least until our family grows (his sister will love reading that!). And, of course, we’ll make the big decisions together, such as the wedding date. We currently envision a fall wedding in 2019.
A Traditional Type of Wedding for Us
While the two of us are so over the idea of traditional gender roles, we are planning a traditional type of wedding. Hear me out! Traditional refers to decor and activities. Getting married this way suits our classic taste; we’re not into most trends. Part of what this means is that I’m going to be looking at a long white wedding dress.
And to my bridesmaids: don’t worry that you’ll be in a horrific dress you’d never wear again – I’ll choose pretty ones like at Prom Dress Finder that you can wear to a fancy party in the future. Then you’ll get more use out of it. I’ll also make sure that you actually like the dress. Aureleo and I joked about a zombie ceremony where everyone dresses like Walking Dead, but that’s not really us!
We see our wedding as being:
- 100 guests or less
- Small wedding party
- Hotel reception
- Indoor ceremony
- Sit-down dinner…
- …Followed by a dance party
- Classic floral bouquets
- Tiered wedding cake
- White wedding dress
- Black tux or suit
At the moment, we are undecided if our traditional type of wedding ceremony will be in a church or a hall. While some members of our family are religious, others are not. I believe in God but do not go to church, for personal reasons. Aureleo does not attend church regularly either.
There are many great options for where to have the ceremony when it’s a traditional type of wedding. In fact, there’s so many that it’s a bit overwhelming. Thankfully we have close to a year before the big day, so we’re hopeful that we’ll get the one that best for us. To make it easier too there are sites with planning tips, venues, dresses, and more, all in one place, so you can see possibilities at a glance. Click here for details.
As for the reception, we are thinking it’ll be at a hotel or ballroom. As I mentioned earlier, we have an appointment in early January at a fancy local hotel to see if we like what they have to offer and whether it fits our budget. Food-wise, it will be a catered sit-down meal.
Big Decisions Coming Up
Within the next month, we will decide the exact date for our traditional type of wedding, as well as determining the reception venue. We have to finalize the guest list too. We also hope to have a final decision by then as to whether it will be a church ceremony or not.
I will post updates as wedding planning progresses; my goal is to share what I learn to help make the journey easier for other brides. And I hope to learn lots of budgeting tips along the way!
Oh, and did I mention we plan to move in the New Year from our condo to a house? Soooo big changes ahead and I’ll be blogging about them. I hope you’ll join me on the adventures in house hunting and getting married!
Do you have any wedding planning tips to share? What type of wedding did you have or would you like to have one day?