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The first date can feel like a job interview, from the sweaty palms to dry mouth. But you can get past the awkwardness at the start that is so normal and really knock the outing out of park if you follow these dos and don’ts on first date for ladies.
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DO be yourself
Absolutely. If you pretend to be someone else, then you’re going to attract somebody that won’t be a good fit for the true you.
And why would you want to be someone other than the adorable woman you are? Not everyone will click with one another so be authentic right from the start on a Kent dating site or elsewhere and if it’s a match that’s great – If not, there’s going to be another first date soon, and it could be a better connection.
More dos and don’ts on first date for ladies:
DON’T wear an outfit you can’t even breathe in
While you want to look nice, it’s also important to dress to be comfortable. This doesn’t mean wearing sweatpants (they can look sloppy, like you don’t have self-confidence), but it does mean wearing something that isn’t so tight that you can’t even breathe in it.
When you’re wearing something comfortable and nice-looking, then you’re going to feel more self-assured, and that’s presenting yourself in the best light. And you’ll feel at your best when you look your best too.
DOs and don’t on first date for ladies: Ask about him too
It may feel even more like an interview if you’re just answering his questions. So, ask him a few things about himself too.
It could be that you prep a few questions before the evening based on what you know about him (job, hobbies, pets…) from his profile at Birmingham dating or his Facebook profile. Or, ask a question based on something he mentions to you when you meet, such as what he was doing earlier in the day. It shows your genuine interest in him, and that’s a good thing!
DON’T have sex on the first date
It’s not setting yourself up for a long-term relationship, in my opinion, if you sleep with the person on the first date. Plus, it means more when you two do get to the bedroom if you have built a connection together.
Intimacy can be amazing, and the right person will want to enjoy it fully with you when the time is right. Besides, what’s the rush?
There are a lot of great first date activities that don’t involve jumping into bed. Here are some great free date ideas.
DO offer to split the cost
If you’re out at a restaurant on the first date, after meeting on Derbyshire singles or another way, choose something around the same price as him so that you can later offer to split the price of the meal. BUT if he is very insistent on paying the check then don’t offend him by refusing. In this case, offer to buy him a treat the next time you meet up!
DON’T kiss him if you’re not feeling it
This all depends on the two people. If you’re feeling bold and want to hug or kiss him (or both) at the end of the first date and you feel it’ll be reciprocated then, by all means, do so. But if you’re not feeling it then don’t lead him on with this type of goodbye.
If at the end of the date he goes in for a kiss and you’re not feeling it then it’s best not to kiss back; instead, turn your face and perhaps squeeze his arm to show you appreciate it but aren’t feeling the same. It’s an awkward moment unfortunately, but it’s best to be true to how you’re feeling. After all, you would expect the same from the person you met on Gloucester dating or Staffordshire dating.
A final one for the dos and don’ts on first date for ladies:
DO think positively
It’s a big thing that you’ve put yourself out there and opened up to someone by going out on this first date. Give yourself props for that!
Stay positive that the right person for you is out there, whether it’s the one you went out with tonight or someone you have yet to meet. You’re an awesome woman, and if he sees that then he’ll ask you out again. And, in the meantime, take a long bath and enjoy the rush of having gotten through that first date. You did it!
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