But I’m Afraid – How to Deal with the Fear that is Blocking Your Life

Fear is a natural emotion. A very natural one, in fact, as it’s come from the hindbrain. The subconscious automatic part of ourselves that is designed to help us survive. Fear can be useful as it gets us out of potentially dangerous situations or can prepare the body to cope with them in a way that means survival is more likely. However, when fear blocks you from fulfilling your full potential in life, it became problematic and needs to be dealt with. With this in mind, you will find some techniques to help you do just this discussed below.

Acknowledge your fears during meditation

Is fear keeping you from achieving everything you want out of life? Pexels, CC0 License.

Meditation

A life dominated by fear isn’t a very pleasant one, and as a response to this many of us push our fears down and hide them away. However, this is likely to result in difficulties with anxiety and depression because it’s a very difficult trying to be in constant control of our inner emotional landscape. An alternative to this is to allow such sensations of fear while meditating. Meditating is a simple activity where we direct the attention gently towards the breath. It’s expected that certain thoughts, feelings, and sensations will come up including fearful ones and during the meditative process, we acknowledge that they are there and we just return our attention to the breath.

The benefit of such an exercise is that we learn to accept our inner experience and also not to put too much stock by it. Yes, we can be afraid, but we can choose to not act in line with that fear and do the things that will help us fulfill our potential anyway. In this way, we neither push away the fear sensations or let them dominate our lives.

Hypnosis

Another useful strategy for dealing with fear in our life is to practice a skill like Ericksonian hypnosis.  This is a process of finding a positive emotion, one where we feel confident, happy, and calm and transferring this to a situation that we may be struggling with.

For example, you may have a lot of fear about visiting the dentists to get that root canal done, but with Ericksonian hypnosis, you can recall and anchor a time when you were calm and in control to use during your dental appointment. Thus allowing you to do what needs to get done with less discomfort.

Remove some of the fear

Reframe your thoughts with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Pixabay, CC0 Creative Commons.

CBT

Lastly, another useful way of dealing with the fear that is preventing you from doing things that are important to you in your life is CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This is primarily a way of reframing our thoughts to remove some of the fearful charges from them. The idea is that we identify the automatic thoughts we have in a fearful situation such as: “I can’t do this,” “I’m too afraid,” “I can’t take the pain,” and “what if it goes wrong?” Challenging these with a more balanced view.

It’s not about removing the fear completely and kidding yourself that you are OK with something that is a little scary, but it’s about having a more realistic, less distorted view of the task ahead of you. Something that can make doing scary things a lot easier.

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24 thoughts on “But I’m Afraid – How to Deal with the Fear that is Blocking Your Life

  1. Well done, Christy – and good suggestions. What’s especially tricky about fear is that we sometimes aren’t even sure what it is that we’re afraid of – only that we have an anxious feeling in the pit of our stomach that sends us running for relief.

    Your #1 suggestion is helpful calming us down, in that case – or so I’ve found in my own life anyway — followed by an affirmation that we will be able to manage whatever as we come to it (specific to each person).
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to educate a world!”

  2. I recently started to catch myself passing on certain opportunities due to fear and I hate it. I’ve been trying to find ways to get rid of it so finding this post came at the perfect time! Your writing is beautiful and helpful. Definitely following you have some amazing articles! Much love xx

  3. Fear is a big thing and keeps people from being able to live in the present moment. One of the biggest things I’ve learned is you’ve got to be ok that everything is uncertain. Fear comes from feeling like you have no control. We have to be able to dance with it. We have to bend and flex with life. The more you practice this the more fear will disappear.

  4. My fear is of heights…..have I overcome it…nope…I’ve had to deal with it as where I work I have to work at height when needed,scares me sometimes when I’m at 4 mtrs+ up in an open ‘cage’ & it’s moving around with me working in it….

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