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Could one of the reasons so many people get sick be because they’re lonely? It turns out that loneliness is a real phenomenon that can affect our health, currently impacting millions of people across the country. For a long time, it left scientists baffled, but now they’re building up the theory and evidence to help them understand why loneliness might be such a big problem.

Human beings are social animals. We didn’t evolve in isolation. Instead, we relied on a community in which every person had a role. The women would typically forage for roots and fruit. The children would help the women once old enough. The men would go out and get meat if it was available or they’d prepare housing and look after livestock. In other words, there was a division of labor in which eat person relied on another to maintain their quality of life. Being alone was extremely uncommon, simply because your survival chances were so small.

Loneliness has Psychological and Physical Implications

What are the health consequences of loneliness? Image via Pexels (CC0 License).

But in today’s world, it’s easy to survive by yourself. However, it appears to be related to a bunch of negative health consequences. Why? Scientists think it might have something to do with the body’s primal stress response to isolation. Being by yourself was a sign that you’d been cast out from the tribe. As a result, all your stress responses go into overdrive to protect you from the predators in the environment. This could be why people who are by themselves for long periods of time start to suffer health consequences: their body’s response to stress has real, physiological effects which then cause a range of health problems.

One of the reasons why projects like the United Zion Retirement Community is so important is because they are trying to reduce the level of loneliness in the community. Elderly people, for instance, who don’t live alone, die far less often than those that do, according to researchers at Brigham Young University. Their results suggest that being with other people all the time reduces mortality by 30 percent, an enormous bump in survival.

Loneliness Causes Psychological Problems

Loneliness is associated with a whole host of psychological problems. These include schizophrenia, depression, anxiety and substance abuse. What’s more, loneliness is often the most common mental state associated with suicide. In other words, you rarely find a suicidal person who is around people all the time. It’s something primary which is brought about by isolation it seems.

Loneliness Causes Physical Problems

The idea that emotional states could have physiological effects on the body sounded like quackery to many just a few years ago. But as so often happens in the medical profession, the quacks turn out to be right and the professionals wrong. It turns out that loneliness has all sorts of effects on the body, from reducing libido to suppressing the immune system. As such, scientists now believe that stress is something that in and of itself is harmful to the body.

The bottom line? If we’re going to be healthy in the digital age, we need to make sure that our connections to other people are real. We need our own tribe.



  1. Lisa Orchard July 18, 2017

    I love this article. I know isolation is a huge factor in not only suicide, but in instances where someone turns violent. For example, school bombers and random shooters. One of the recurring themes when authorities studied similarities between these groups was they all experienced isolation. We need to make connections not only for our own health but for others as well! Kudos to you for stating it so eloquently!

  2. aquibview July 18, 2017

    Awesome post. Hey Christy, again
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    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      You’re awesome! And look at all of these awards you’re winning :) I’m an award-free blog but I appreciate the nominations, Aquib

  3. rollyachabotbooks July 18, 2017

    Hi Christy…
    Great article and yes I agree fully for the need of community. For years I lived alone in some very remote locations. I cannot truthfully say that it was healthy as we I did come back into civilization it was overwhelming. Being the INFJ personality the introvert in me is normal but I do need people in my life.
    The research on loneliness and correlation to to being unhealthy mentally and physically only makes sense. What I see is people are becoming more and more dependent on social media as a form of connection. It serves it purpose but we all need to socialize…
    Excellent article Christy and one which makes us all rethink the amount of time we spend alone…

    Virtual Hugs from Alberta

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      It’s ironic isn’t it Rolly that it’s “social media” and yet we’re alone on our devices as we use these networks.. Great that you make time to have one-on-one interactions, as well as group outings. Do take care :)

  4. Swati Awana July 18, 2017

    Perfect logic. Superlike👍

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Hi Swati, great to see you and sending a smile :)

    2. Swati Awana July 20, 2017


    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Awwww and this for you now: :) <3 :) <3

  5. Sparsha Mishra July 18, 2017

    I loved this post. 🙂

  6. Great article that shows how social media can cause many issues.
    I wonder how social media will affect children in the future. I hope parents will encourage their children to interact with others more.
    Here in Florida, where I live, the elderly in assisted living facilities often suffer from depression and lonliness. Their health is affected too. I hope things can change for the better.
    Isadora 😎

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Hi Isadora, here is a post on lonliness at old age, as you mentioned about care homes.. it includes some suggestions.. I’m also curious about the changes in communication for upcoming generations and whether social media increases loneliness… We shall see… Here’s that link, in case it’s of interest: https://whenwomeninspire.com/2017/07/12/combat-loneliness-old-age/

  7. InspiresN July 18, 2017

    great post and well said!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017


  8. Karissa Jacksn July 18, 2017

    Loneliness is such a powerful emotion that causes a domino effect in our lives. Once we feel lonely, we start to neglect our wellbeing, our work and all of our responsibilities as we retreat into ourselves. Some people compensate by putting themselves out there more, but if that doesn’t work then all areas of our lives can suffer. Great reminder in this time of non-personal connection!

  9. dgkaye July 18, 2017

    So important to have a tribe Christy. Loneliness absolutely can cause so many negative effects within us both physically and mentally. It’s a fact that many seniors who lose a spouse also die within short time frames after because all they had was each other. People need to be loved and heard to stay nourished. Fantastic post my friend. <3 xxx

  10. milfordstreet July 18, 2017

    This is a really important point. Loneliness and isolation are huge problems for many people. It is so easy to live without contact with others now and too many times we walk around with our heads down not attending to the lives of others. Great post, Christy. Cheers!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Sometimes I look at a person as I pass them walking, make eye contact, and smile. I wonder at if the smile will be returned; sometimes it is, other times not. I’ll keep trying. Smiling at you now :)

    2. milfordstreet July 20, 2017

      Thanks for the smile. It’s a great way to go through life. 😊

    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Exactly! Thanks Chris :)

  11. K..... July 18, 2017

    good post I personly think Lonelyness is the saddest and hardest Emotion to recover from. Can be in a room of 100 people and still feel lonely x

  12. Diane Tibert July 18, 2017

    Loneliness is a complex matter. As K stated, someone “can be in a room of 100 people and still feel lonely.” Yet some can be alone for days without even a phone call and never feel lonely.

    I love being alone–though I seldom get time alone since I had kids–and I am never lonely when I get a few days to myself (not even when I was younger and had weeks to myself). Perhaps because the activities I do are often meant for one person: writing, reading, drawing, gardening.

    I have a senior friend who loves being alone but when she wants to interact with people, she seeks them out. She’s very active, but she wants to interact with humans on her terms, when she wants to. She is comfortable with being alone and is not lonely.

    I often think lonely in the inability to enjoy oneself, the time alone for reflection, deep thought, meditation, calmness. Though I do understand many seniors are lonely when locked up in apartments without family and friends to stop in now and again.

    It certainly is an interesting topic, one that is good to discuss, particularly for those who are lonely and unable to articulate their feelings about it.

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Excellent reflections here, Diane. You point out well that loneliness and being alone are not one and the same.

  13. shehannemoore July 18, 2017

    I absolutely agree with you my darling. I think it can have a profound affect on people’s lives x

  14. Aquileana July 18, 2017

    I agree. Loneliness can be damaging… Great post, Chris… I particularly enjoyed the genealogical inputs, at the beginning. Your statements are very well justified, from a historical & medical point of view. :star: Hugs!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      I wish you much love, Aqui <3 You are a kind woman who includes others so they won't feel lonely ~ A quality I adore about you :) Hugging back

    2. Aquileana July 20, 2017

      Aww. Thank you… You do the same for others, hun…. ((Such a shame we live so far away one to the other… Buhhh 😰 )) xo 😘

    3. Christy B July 21, 2017

      I know hunny I wish we were closer in physical distance.. but we are linked on an emotional level and for that I am happy! ♥

  15. Jay July 18, 2017

    It definitely can hinder healing as well.

  16. JESSY ROSE July 18, 2017

    I really like this article, I think now days so many people are isolated from reality by living through their phones…

  17. Tina Frisco July 18, 2017

    I worked in longterm care for 6 years, Christy, and I affirm everything you said. We had a resident border collie who made rounds visiting residents. Those who seldom had visitors would have died sooner had it not been for Joy. Loneliness can kill. Making friends on social media can be a lifesaver for the lonely; another reason why I appreciate our blogging community. Thank you for this wonderful post ♥

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      The dog is named “Joy” and it is such a fitting name! I am so thankful for bloggers like you who stave off loneliness for readers and keep us smiling xx

    2. Tina Frisco July 21, 2017

      The feeling is mutual, darlin’ ♥

  18. CLEvangelism July 18, 2017

    Genesis 2:18
    The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      What a nice surprise to see you here, my friend <3 Blessings xx

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Loneliness and music.. They can be linked… Thank you for the inclusion here, Superduque

  19. Marsha July 18, 2017

    I do like the idea of dying less often, Christy! I read a post of Jeff Goins yesterday about combating the loneliness of writing by joining other authors that are about at your stage in writing and getting together about once a week. Ernest Hemmingway moved to Paris for the exact purpose of being near other authors. We have to have some social contacts to keep going, just like you said.

    I think the internet helps protect older people somewhat from loneliness because they are chatting with others, especially if they live alone.

    But sometimes they (we bloggers) need to step out and at least make a phone call or a visit to someone close to us. Great post. I think it is a topic we need to come back to often. Thanks for sharing. I feel less lonely already! :)

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Marsha, that’s wonderful advice for writers who are often so solitary. The difficult task is finding writers we “click” with.. but at least we’d be making the effort by seeking them out once a week :) The vast WWW can be helpful to an extent in battling loneliness but also in-person connections are vital for a fulfilled life, I believe. Thanks for your beautiful words :)

    2. Marsha July 20, 2017

      I know, it made an impression on me! Your article touched a cord.

    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      <3 is what I'm sending to you!

    4. Marsha July 20, 2017

      rightbackatcha. :)

  20. L. Marie July 18, 2017

    I totally agree about needing your own tribe! I’m trying to reach out to people more, even if it means stopping what I’m doing and sending a text or a private message on Facebook. A message of encouragement to someone is always timely!

  21. underwearandacrown July 18, 2017

    Love this so much!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      And I loved reading your comment :)

  22. The Godly Chic Diaries July 18, 2017

    Awesome read! Love this.😊

  23. The Thinker July 19, 2017

    “The Scourge of Loneliness” – is it loneliness?, is it a scourge? How about ‘going-solo’ is that categorised as ‘loneliness’? Going solo as I will refer to it as, can be a form of healing as well as a defence mechanism, defence from what? possibly a person has thought to themselves, “to heck with all the hassle”, possibly related to other people and come to a conclusion, ‘going-solo’, would be a better option. Is it indeed the ‘loneliness’ that causes psychological problems? if it was dug a little deeper into, could it not be the reason behind a person’s ‘loneliness’, ‘going-solo’ that is more likely the cause of any psychological problems? As for classing ‘all’ human beings as ‘social animals’, is this a one size fits all scenario? If it is, does it fit? Taking the digital age out of the equation, yes we do need to “make sure that our connections to other people are real. We need our own tribe” although acknowledge, respect, sometimes a person does not necessarily require or want to be within a ‘tribe’. Tribes can become ‘cleeky’.

    1. The Thinker July 19, 2017

      As an addition, ” you rarely find a suicidal person who is around people all the time. It’s something primary which is brought about by isolation it seems” – I must find the rarity’s, as I can sadly say, I have known of a few ‘suicides’ where I would have considered the people to be the ‘life and soul of the party people’. ‘social people’ – were they trying ‘to fit’ with what has been developed into being viewed as ‘the norm’. For these people, how much pressure did it put them under, ‘to try and fit’, to be a ‘social butterfly’? what psychological effects could this cause, have caused? Why do people feel as if they have to be the same as each other? Frightened of uniqueness? being unique?

    2. The Thinker July 19, 2017

      To further add, possibly a wee sidetrack from, an expansion to your topic (next sentence is being said tongue in cheek) during a break from ‘the screen’, wow! isn’t it amazing how one’s mind remembers how to work when not looking at a screen. Your blog post which contained the words ‘scientist’, ‘professionals’ and ‘quackery’ and another blog I am currently following, commenting on, which contained the word ‘specialism’, reminded me of an instance when ‘scientists’, ‘specialists’. ‘Dr’s’, depending upon which term you may use, didn’t know or hadn’t even heard of a diagnosis that was EVENTUALLY given to someone, too late I hasten and sadly add. My point, question here is…if someone dares to be different, be unique, what and who gives these ‘scientists’, ‘specialists’, again dependent upon which term you use, to be classed as such and to be permitted to categorise other people into specific ‘groups’, under specific ‘terms’? Are they as ‘scientific’, ‘specialist’ as it is made out they are?

    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Hi Tom! Look at all of these “thoughts of the day” for you to put on your blog. Feel free to reword them and make them posts :) I’m glad for how you question the world and keep us on our toes. Much of what you say involves differentiating between being alone and being lonely. As you say, you can be around a lot of people and still feel lonely (although you are not physically alone). Hugs!

    4. The Thinker July 20, 2017

      Thanks Christy. Haha, someone has to question the world, (why does it have to be me, haha) the downside is…..it so darn huge! :)

    5. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Well on the plus side you’ll never run out of topics for blog posts! ;)

  24. Sweta July 19, 2017

    Omg i can relate to this article, apparently i got isolated..living alone is tough and it has affected my health..hormonal imbalance, lack of sleep, depression, anger, putting on weight is wat am suffering from. X

  25. Shayra July 19, 2017

    Good article.Loneliness ushers door to depression very rapidly.Give invitation to disease , negative thoughts .It’s good for sometime to relax ones mind ,but not for a long.Loneliness is like a silent killer.

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Your words about silence remind me of an article I recently read about how a bit of noise in the background, like the radio on low volume at home, can stave off loneliness.. I am hoping your day is full of happy vibes, Shayra :)

    2. Shayra July 20, 2017

      Thank you do much mam.Its always a great pleasure for me to hear your beautiful feedback😊

    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      I feel the same way!

    4. Shayra July 20, 2017


  26. Sharat Pathak July 19, 2017

    Its thought provoking!! But today digital revolution is making all people more lonely. People are busy fidgeting with mobile and not talking to those present around.

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      It’s strange Sharat how “social” media is in some ways anti-social…

    2. Sharat Pathak July 22, 2017

      Indeed!! Artificial intelligence is going to ruin us in more efficient way than social media.

    3. Christy B July 22, 2017

      Hi Sharat, I recently read a post on AI and it sent shivers down me.. Scary stuff if in the wrong hands, for sure.

  27. Jessica Billiet July 19, 2017

    I love this article! Community is essential for well being on a personal level, but it is also imperative for anyone trying to reach a goal in their professional life! My husband and I used to volunteer a lot as teenagers, and one of the most rewarding things we did was visit the elderly in nursing homes. I saw one nursing home who had an amazing program that integrated with a kindergarten. The children would come in and play, learn, and just talk to the residents. It was a beautiful thing. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      That sounds heartwarming, Jessica! Another reason volunteering is great not only for the person being helped but also the volunteer :) Give and thou shall receive… I love the idea of a supportive community. Thanks for being here in the blogging world, which is such a great community in itself!

  28. Absolutely well said !! Loveable article

  29. John Fioravanti July 19, 2017

    Very well done, Christy! In the years to come, I wonder if said experts will turn their attention to the impacts our virtual tribe has on those of us who spend a lot of time online. Also, can a virtual tribe replace a face-to-face tribe for those who are elderly or cut off from other for other reasons? An interesting topic!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      It’s very interesting, John. Your point is spot on. Is social media really social? Are we distancing ourselves rather than coming closer? Will the next generation be lonelier for it? So much to be revealed… Thanks for being here, dear friend.

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  31. Resa July 19, 2017

    This is a very interesting post, Christy. It is topic that needs to be considered more and exposed more deeply. I like what John Fioravanti said. It is a true bell ringing!

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Ring on!! xx

  32. PureJoy bynina July 19, 2017

    Thanks som much. Great writing and great adwise 👏😘🌸

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Hi Nina :)

    2. PureJoy bynina July 21, 2017


    3. Christy B July 21, 2017

      <3 <3

  33. Lacey Dearie July 20, 2017

    This makes so much sense. I left the corporate world in 2014 to be a full time writer. I’ve suffered from poor physical and emotional health since the end of that year. I do believe there is a link.

    1. Christy B July 20, 2017

      Hi Lacey, I get it as I’m a full-time writer too. Finding the balance between working alone and social time can be difficult but we need to at least try xx

    2. Lacey Dearie July 20, 2017

      Hmm, but the physical problems and depression then stand in the way of that need and desire to get out and so it becomes a cycle of problems. Loneliness has far reaching consequences xx

    3. Christy B July 20, 2017

      It’s an internal battle.. and tough to get out of a spiral xx

  34. I am Aranab July 21, 2017

    I was about to disagree and then i started thinking about it one level deeper. While I am perfectly fine on my own as I am always learning something. It is also true that I do feel better after going out in between being long period lonely. It is important to have people around or to be around people even it were for once a week.

    1. Christy B July 21, 2017

      I get what you are saying here. Some people like to be social daily and for others its less often.. to each their own :) Thanks for participating in the discussion here

  35. MG WELLS July 27, 2017

    Interesting, Christy. Thanks for sharing. I find I like my own company more often. People are so different and some so challenging. Enjoy the day.

    1. Christy B July 29, 2017

      Challenging is a good word to use, MG ;) Plus, we can talk to ourselves for company hehe

  36. Robert Matthew Goldstein July 29, 2017

    Excellent post Christy. Loneliness is a killer and it’s often exacerbated by the symptoms of depression and the normal tendency to withdraw that attends aging. This is why community supports are so important.

    1. Christy B August 5, 2017

      Sorry Robert this post got lost in Spam territory :( You’re right about the importance of community!

    2. Robert Matthew Goldstein August 5, 2017

      I often find gems in my spam killer. I always forget to check it. Thanks for the reply, Christy.

    3. Christy B August 23, 2017

      I found so much spam today, Robert! Sighhhhh… hope your week is going well :)

    4. Robert Matthew Goldstein August 23, 2017

      Well. I am horrified by everything but feel somewhat hopeful. That’s better than last week when I was horrified by everything and thought we were all going to die in a nuclear holocaust.

  37. Pete Day July 30, 2017

    Yep, loneliness doesn’t help my health…eating the wrong food,not getting out on the bike is a big part of my downfall…this year was meant to be a turnaround but…….

    1. Christy B August 1, 2017

      Use the new day to make at least one small positive change, if you can, Pete. Thinking of you!

  38. Carol // Aussie Mum Blogger August 11, 2017

    Great post Christy. I think its so easy to be alone nowadays. Things like UBEREATS and menu log make it easier to stay in so that we don’t have to dine at a restaurant. Being attached to social media and our phones, prevents us having a conversation in person!

    When I went to Japan earlier this year, they mentioned that Japan’s suicidal rate is rising (they even have a forest called Aokigahara Forest which is where people go to commit suicide) it is so sad. Articles mentioned that it’s because people are always on their phones, they don’t interact enough. People just go to work and go home!

    1. Christy B August 14, 2017

      Oh that’s so sad what you wrote about Japan’s culture.. it sounds like the North American one to the extreme… I hope that communication in-person starts to make a comeback of sorts because a virtual hug just isn’t the same as one in person!!

    2. CAROL August 14, 2017

      Yes I definitely agree! 💕💕💕

    3. Christy B August 18, 2017

      :) and <3

  39. Savannah August 25, 2017

    Thank you for such a brilliant and true article. I’ve been struggling with chronic loneliness for almost a year now and it’s definitely changed me. Loneliness leads to detachment. What scares me is that it’s only going to get worse for me and for other lonely people.

    1. Christy B August 26, 2017

      I hope that it doesn’t worsen for you and that instead you find connection, Savannah. You are welcome here anytime xx

  40. expattingpom November 7, 2017

    Thank you for this, a great read!

    I have gone from being surrounded by family, to being perpetually alone aside my husband and children.

    My moving abroad and circumstantial changes have lead me to become somewhat socially reclusive (language/cultural barrier of new lands) and I can 100% agree with the impact on mental health and its correlation with that of the physical.

    Being lonely caused/causes me to seek out alternative and often unhealthy means of comfort that I might have once gotten from interactions with family or friends – often I find that this is food, though it can also be alcohol. Neither I find particularly comforting in the aftermath, but in the moment; I would say they help.

    The most troubling aspect I find of loneliness (for me, at least) is that it is a difficult cycle to remove yourself from; even when solutions seem fairly obvious.

    I find that along with my mental-health related weight-gain, loneliness has cost me substantially eroded self-esteem and a real reluctance to ‘cure’ the loneliness by a means of socialising.

    It is refreshing to read an objective approach and perspective on loneliness and its risk factors; I feel less like I am losing my mind!

    Again, thank you for sharing

    S x

    1. Christy B November 7, 2017

      You are definitely not losing your mind! Loneliness is a real thing and you’re not alone in finding yourself in the cycle of it. I hope you find some hope in the words written here.xx

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