Brigitte talks about body confidence issues, something that many women struggle with every single day. Her suggestions to be comfortable in your own skin provide the inspiration of the day.
In a world dominated by social media images of perfect bodies and faces, it’s hard to keep body confidence. However, being comfortable in your own skin is of important value to your mental health and overall psychological well-being. So, how to accomplish such a feat when everything seems to be working against you?
When you speak your mind loud and clear, people will likely respect you more. If you have a tendency to conform and do whatever people ask, you will eventually come to the point where no one will listen to what you have to say. Speaking up doesn’t mean going against everyone else; instead, it’s about being assertive about what you need. Once people know what bothers you, they will most probably try to make changes.
Practice assertiveness with your friends by expressing your needs and emotions, and proposing how they can change their behavior to meet your needs. By expressing your needs in an assertive way, you respect other opinions and maintain respect for yourself too.
Your body is a temple and, therefore, you should treat it that way. This means regular sleep, exercise, and a healthy diet. Those are the three pillars of a healthy lifestyle.
Start by making a sleep schedule and sticking to it. Go to bed before midnight and wake up at a point where your REM cycle is not interrupted. For a full recovery, you need at least four sleep cycles per night.
If you interrupt this cycle during the REM phase (the last 30 minutes of each cycle), you will feel grumpy and dull most of the next day. You can use a sleep calculator to help you estimate when you need to set your alarm clock to get the most out of your sleeping time.
As for exercise and food, you need to make a schedule for these too, and find the right balance that enables you to function every day at your best. This means no skipping meals or avoiding workouts. Once you make healthy living a habit, you will start to notice fewer body confidence issues than before.
You can tell a lot about a person based on the way they dress. Extraverted people tend to dress colorfully and choose extravagant, stand-out pieces of clothing. Meanwhile, more introverted people choose plain, basic colors and textures. The way we dress also counts for how self-confident and comfortable in our own skin we feel. Tight dresses show boldness, while a loose, long dress communicates a wish to hide and avoid expression.
It’s important to think about how your way of dressing expresses who you are. Think about that statement the next time that you go shopping. Look those body confidence issues in the eye. But, how?
Look for a piece of clothing that you’ve always wanted to wear but never had the courage to do so. Choosing the right piece of clothing is essential to boost self-esteem and be comfortable in your own skin. It could be a V-shape décolleté shirt and a pair of boyfriend jeans that fit legs of all shapes and sizes well.
Another good idea is to cut down on makeup. Stop hiding your natural beauty underneath layers of foundation. Instead, you might invest in your skin quality with regular peels and skin care products. No makeup is more beautiful than your natural look.
In the end, nothing will change if you decide not to make a risk. A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but it’s also a place where nothing grows.
If you have body confidence issues, take it as a sign that you need to change something about yourself. This might be a simple change or something big. When you get out of your comfort zone, you have the space to be more comfortable in your own skin. Examples of positive changes are:
To have true self-satisfaction, you need to stop obsessing about being perfect. Instead, start to accept yourself just the way you are. Embracing other cultures can help you see yourself differently, from a perspective of someone who doesn’t know your past or your background. For example, if you are insecure about being a size 14, go to New Zealand and discover how desirable your female figure is there.
Maybe you decide to take a friend who also has body confidence issues with you on the out-of-the-comfort-zone adventure. Not tomorrow, but today. All you need is a pen and a paper to start writing down the things you want to do but never had the courage to, and then start doing them, one by one.
With each thing that you do, your ability to be comfortable in your own skin will grow. It’ll get easier to try new things. Lastly, you will learn that feeling confident isn’t a yes-or-no thing. Instead it’s a process of development and getting closer each day to the ideal version of yourself.
Brigitte Evans is a Cosmetic Skin Care Consultant and a writer from Australia, with a sweet tooth for makeup and everything sparkly. When she is not drooling over the next big thing in the beauty industry, she reads mystery novels and makes plans for her next trip. She is the proud aunt of Sophie, age 4, who has rounded her Chanel lipstick, but she loves her anyway.
I agree with Brigette, thank you Christy for the inspiration today. I am also from Australia and I think Australian’s are the worst for self-criticism and self-judgement. It has taken me several decades to realise that we do need to feel comfortable in our own skin to live in contentment. I agree that we should accept ourselves just the way we are… a unique being. Thanks Christy! We can always count on you to talk about things that matter.
Social networks create trends and that makes people very aware of fashion, especially women and do not show themselves as they really are.
It is important to be comfortable in your own skin. Good advice here. Thanks, Christy and Brigette.
Thank you, Christy. :)
Perfect advice! Thank you Brigette and Christy!
xo Great post!
Turn off social media or at least know that even the “pinnacles” of beauty don’t look like that in real life. A picture is a snapshot of a moment that has been endlessly retouched.
I just turned 60 this past February 27th and I am comfortable with and in my body. My main concern is that I stay healthy. After I retired from my previous job last Year my health began to improve. Last Year I also made the decision to cut off my hair and allow the Grey hair to reign supreme. When I was a young woman I was never really into makeup. I was Happy with lipstick and mascara. Of course I stopped hitting the club years ago and I no longer feel that I must make a good impression on men or try to attract a man. That ship sailed long ago. Like any woman I want to look good but I let the midlife crisis go. I will never have the flat belly of my 20s and 30s but I’m satisfied and content with the way I look now. There is No Benjamin Button to Press. So I have Sailed into Sixty with Grace and ease.
It is really one of the issues that need quick addressing. Thanks..
Every big thing takes time. Its probably our contribution to it…
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