With both paid and free online dating websites out there, it can be overwhelming and confusing for a single gal to decide which one to use. When I was single, I used both types. Here are my conclusions about which I found to be the best online dating websites, free or paid. In other words, do you have to spend money to find love online?
Disclosure: This post is sponsored by We Love Dates and Older Dating. All opinions are mine and mine alone.
The Assumption about Paid vs. Free Dating Websites
Many people assume that paid sites are better because they’ll only have those people who are serious about dating. Well, that’s what I thought too. I signed up for a dating site and paid up for several months, only to find there were few active users. Then I sent messages to users there and remember not getting any replies.
I later researched the site – I know, groan, I ought to have done that beforehand – and found out that I was not the only one not getting replies to my messages to online dating users on that particular site. Likely those non-responsive people had found matches already or simply gave up on the site but kept their profile there as they had paid to do so. Talk about disappointing, and I was out a chunk of cash too that particular year.
The Reality: You Don’t Have to Pay to Date Online
Now that I’ve dispelled that myth about the paid platforms, I want you to know that I had much more success with the free dating sites. The freebie ones didn’t seem any lower in quality of the web pages or have slower load times. And here’s what was better:
Male users actually responded to my messages there, and others even took the initiative and messaged me first. Yes, there were lots of active users. I was thinking, wow, I didn’t have to pay a cent!
While I didn’t meet everyone in person who I messaged with through these platforms, I did see a few of them. They were nice guys but for one reason or another none of them were my forever guy. My point here is that the men were just as nice as I had anticipated would be the case for the paid online dating websites.
And when you really give it some thought, you shouldn’t have to pay to find love. You deserve to find that special someone, and if you choose to do so through the digital dating world then you needn’t be stuck with a bill for the process of looking for him or her.
Also, if you look back on the start of the online dating trend, there were a lot fewer sites to choose from. And they weren’t paid ones. Now you can join a free dating site easily, filling out a profile and gaining access to pages of users who just might be a love match with you. The websites are a lot better quality than before, even for the ones at no cost.
Another Benefit of Free Dating Sites Over Paid Ones
Another thing I didn’t like about that paid dating site I used? It only gave me access to those men who I “matched” with. These matches were based on my profile (interests, age range, etc.).
I would rather have had access to all users of the site. That way I could look through them at my leisure, which most free platforms do allow. I realize that just because software says I’m not a match for someone doesn’t mean that’s the case… Sometimes opposites do attract! So, choosing for yourself who is a good fit is a benefit of free sites.
Ultimately, you’re going to do what you like. But, just for the record, I had more fun dates with the free websites than the paid websites. Now I’m in a relationship, so I’m no longer on the dating scene. But I’m still glad for those experiences. Why? Now I can offer advice based on what my findings. I wish you all the best in your journey to find love.