There are both paid and free online dating websites out there, and for the single gal or guy, it can be perplexing to decide which one to use. When I was single, I used both types. Here are my conclusions about which type of dating site is better in this post sponsored by Digital Dudes.
The Assumption about Paid vs. Free Dating Websites
Many people assume that paid sites are better because they’ll only have those people who are serious about dating. Well, that’s what I thought too. I signed up for a dating site and found out once I was all paid up for several months that there were not many active users. I recall sending messages and not getting any replies.
I later researched the site (I know, groan, I ought to have done that beforehand) and found out that I was not the only one not getting replies to my messages to online dating users on that particular site. Likely those non-responsive people had found matches already or simply gave up on the site but kept their profile there as they had paid to do so. Talk about disappointing, and I was out a chunk of cash too that particular year.
The Reality: You Don’t Have to Pay to Date Online
Now that I’ve dispelled that myth about the paid platforms, I want you to know that I had much more success with the free dating sites. The freebie ones didn’t seem any lower in quality of the web pages or have slower load times. And here’s what was better: Male users actually responded to my messages there, and others even took the initiative and messaged me first. Yes, there were lots of active users. I was thinking, wow, I didn’t have to pay a cent!
While I didn’t meet everyone in person who I messaged with through these platforms, I did see a few of them. They were nice guys but for one reason or another none of them were my forever guy. My point here is that the men were just as nice as I had anticipated would be the case for the paid online dating websites.
And when you really give it some thought, you shouldn’t have to pay to find love. You deserve to find that special someone, and if you choose to do so through the digital dating world then you needn’t be stuck with a bill for the process of looking for him or her.
Also, if you look back on the start of the online dating trend, there were a lot fewer sites to choose from, and they weren’t paid ones. Now you can join a free dating site easily, filling out a profile and gaining access to pages of users who just might be a love match with you. The websites are a lot better quality than before, even for the ones at no cost.
Another Benefit of Free Dating Sites Over Paid Ones
Another thing I didn’t like about that paid dating site I used was that it gave me access only to those men who I matched with, based on my profile (interests, age range, etc.). I would rather have had access to all users of the site so I could look through them at my leisure, which most free platforms do allow. I realize that just because software says I’m not a match for someone doesn’t mean that’s the case in real life… Sometimes opposites do attract! So, being able to choose on your own who to select as a good fit is a benefit of free sites.
Ultimately, you’re going to do what you like but, just for the record, I had more fun dates with the free websites than the paid websites. Now I’m in a relationship, so I’m no longer on the dating scene. But I’m still glad I had those experiences and can now offer advice based on what I found. I wish you all the best in your journey to find love.