In the hard grind of life, sometimes you can get bogged down in the mundane and forget about maintaining your marriage. Because you spend so much time running around trying to sort out the kids and keep the house in some kind of orderly fashion, finding just a moment to stop and reflect can be difficult.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you are failing, it’s just a small indication that you need to reassess your current situation and figure out some ways to renew your love and get back in touch. Marriage is a long haul and it’s as much about listening to each other and respecting each other as it is about confirming your love every day.
Take Time to Listen
When you are busy and there’s a lot going on, it’s all too easy to talk without listening properly. We’re all guilty of this one from time to time but there is an easy solution: stop for a moment, remove yourself from the distractions and listen – really listen.
We think of talking as being the most important thing when actually listening has far more value. When we stop and listen to each other properly, we can see where the problems are and begin to find practical solutions together. In a marriage, this goes a step further because for you to remain happy as a couple, you need to trust that you will listen to each other.
Enjoy Some Time Alone
Taking some time out from ‘real life’ might sound selfish, but actually, going away as a couple is really healthy for your relationship. Without the kids in tow, you will be able to return to your younger selves and enjoy each other’s company without the stresses and strains of your day-to-day life. A Christian marriage retreat is a perfect idea as this will give you time to heal and reconnect through your faith.
Even if you only manage a short weekend break, this could be the perfect way to show your love for each other and to work through some of the issues that have no doubt been building over the last few years. Be honest with each other and support each other and when you get home, you will feel lighter and happier.
Surprise Each Other
After the initial whirlwind romance and the early days of marriage, you may find that your relationship settles into a familiar pattern. Much of this is a sign that you are truly comfortable in your relationship and that you are working well as a family unit as well as being a couple. However, just occasionally, you might like to spice things up.
It’s always nice to keep things fresh and surprising each other is a nice touch. It might be something as simple as a special dinner, fun present, or movie night or it could be a little more extravagant like a gift. Whatever you do, keep the romance alive and demonstrate how special they are and how much you love them.