Practical Steps To Help Your Child Overcome Irrational Fears

Help your child conquer their anxiety
Fears are normal, no matter how irrational they may be. Image via Pixabay, CC0.
Help your child conquer their anxiety
Fears are normal, no matter how irrational they may be. Image via Pixabay, CC0.

Does your child think there is a monster under the bed? Do they get scared every time you turn off their bedroom light? Don’t worry, fears are perfectly normal, no matter how irrational they may be. There is nothing wrong with your child, and they will eventually grow out of their fears. However, you can help them conquer their fears at any early age. With a little bit of understanding, and a lot of love and compassion, you can help them overcome how they are feeling. Here’s how.

Show patience

The expert article at will give you an account of the types of fear your child is likely to face, according to age. Knowing what to expect will prepare you in each stage of your child’s development.

Remember, the fear is very real to them, so don’t dismiss it or belittle your child with an impatient attitude. Take time to talk to them about they feel, and work with your child on conquering the fear at their own pace. Cognitive therapy teaches us to confront our fears as the best way in dealing with them. However, this approach may compound a child’s fear if they are not yet willing or able to deal with it. Take small steps, such as leaving a dimmer light on in your child’s bedroom if they are scared of the dark, and eventually they should overcome whatever fear is troubling them.

Give your child control

When the fear becomes too large in your child’s head, they will feel threatened and helpless. However, you can give them a sense of control by helping them deal with the situation. So, if they think there is a monster under the bed, go through the nightly ritual by checking under the mattress with a torch with them, and show them there is nothing to be afraid of. Being able to control the fear will eventually help them to conquer it.

Reduce fears

The earlier a child is introduced to something, the less afraid they will be. For example, many children fear water, but if you can take them to the swimming pool at an early age, they are unlikely to be afraid in the future. We can all be afraid of the dentist, but visiting a family practice together, such as, will show your child that there is nothing to be afraid of. Think of the things you were afraid of in life, and make an effort to prevent these fears from showing up in your children’s life.

Overcome your own fears

As parents, we are responsible for how our children behave in the world. Like it or not, however, we can sometimes do more harm than good, without even realizing it. For example, you may have a fear of heights, and your child will pick up on your fears every time they see you panic. You need to promote health and safety, but you know you are going too far when you start screaming at the bottom of a hill rather than the top! So, lead by example, and don’t let how you’re feeling rub off on your child. You can deal with your fears by using the advice given at When you have a handle on the situation, you will be in a better place to help your child.

Final thoughts

These practical steps will help your child, but you should always seek expert advice from a doctor or child therapist, if you child’s fears are becoming unmanageable. In most cases, however, you need to stick in there until your child feels calmer and more confident. Good luck!


  1. Amazing piece. I still recall me as a child loudly chanting any Christian hymn anytime I’m about to cross a dark staircase or enter a dark room… Lol… Thank God I’ve outgrown that one except my phobia for water. It sucks anyway as I hope to conquer it before starting a family of my own.

  2. These are great tips, but I also think it’s important that we push our children to face their fears as well. Anxiety is a tricky monster, and I’ve met quite a few families that what once were small, typical anxieties had grown to epic proportions because they had developed lots of avoidance strategies to protect the child. If the fear is always avoided, coping skills are never learned. It’s perfectly okay to be afraid of the dark – this is a biological norm; we are meant to be afraid of the dark – but it’s not okay to have every single light on in the house. A nightlight suffices, or even better – a flashlight that the child can turn on when anxiety spikes. Gives the child control of the light and encourages de-sensitization.

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