Taking Care of Your Aging Parents: What to Expect

Growing old is something we are all going to experience one day. It might not be all fun and bingo all the time – but the alternative is a lot worse. When your parents are starting to get older, you’d want to make their lives as comfortable and enjoyable as possible.

There are a lot of emotions on the line, though, and caring for someone close to you is quite different than taking care of someone you only know as a patient.

Be a carer for your older mom or dad

Taking care of an aging parent. Unconditional love. Pexels, CC0 License.

Understanding family caregiving

To be a carer for someone is a term today, for better or worse. There used to be a time when assisting someone, be it your elderly neighbor lady or your old uncle, was something we did without realizing it had a name. It sneaks up on you, as it does today, and the amount of care you need to give is only going to increase as they age.

It was no government support back then, no benefits for making the necessary sacrifices in order to look after someone who’s done a lot for you already. And, unsurprisingly, waking up to be a full-time carer takes a massive toll on one’s personal income.

Times have changed and, even though we keep providing the same care nonetheless, the demands won’t weigh as heavy on your shoulders as they did back then. The truth is that anyone can be a carer, and most of us will at one point in our lives. Connect with others like you, seek support, and get the help you need to take proper care of your loved ones.

There will be a lot of changes

Most people who end up in this role did it with a bang. They didn’t expect it themselves, just like you never can expect a loved one to fall ill, undergo surgery, and spend amounts of time recovering. It will happen all of the sudden, and the best you can do is to be prepared to make a few changes in your life.

How you’re going to cope with all of this, depends on how much care your parent is in need of. Sometimes, their cognitive abilities are still perfectly intact, but age has put a damper on their mobility. The more changes you’re able to make in order to accommodate this, the easier you’ll make it for your parent. Consider a mobility vehicle, for example, and a stair lift so that they’re able to stay independent and prolong their feeling of mastering everyday tasks.

Take control of their health

It can be tough to watch as your parents are becoming slightly more confused and unable to care for themselves. The best you can do for them is to make sure they’re eating right, staying hydrated, finding pain relief, and getting enough exercise. The more they’re able to move and be active, the more likely it is that their mental health will be balanced.

Ensure that they’re able to enjoy their hobbies still, or find adjustments so that this is still possible.

Having a walk, reading a book, singing, and listening to music are all excellent ways of doing this. Remember to take care of yourself too, while you’re at it, and enjoy many more years together with your loved ones.

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22 thoughts on “Taking Care of Your Aging Parents: What to Expect

  1. another thing that sucks about growing up is watching your parent growing old. It is so so dreadful and I do not even know why. But with these tips it is very much heartening.

  2. This post really hits home with me, as I am in the midst of trying to make long term decisions with regards to my parents. My mom is suffering from Alzheimer’s, though I couldn’t possibly tell you what stage. My dad is beginning to show signs of dementia himself, but still insists on caring for my mom at home. They are both in their 80’s now, and I worry constantly about their safety and well-being. But, the(dad mainly) are very independent. It takes a great deal of strength to choose to become caregiver for a parent or loved one. Thanks for sharing this!!

  3. Excellent post, Christy. We’ve been through this and out the other side. Another difficult thing is that you’re in the middle of a generation sandwich – your parents need help and your children need help with their kids. At some point, we’ll be facing the specter of needing care – dreading that! That independence issue is HUGE!

  4. This is a very timely post for me as I’ve recently given up my “day job” “career” to look after both of my parents full time. It was not an easy decision to make but it was the right decision at the right time, they need me. It is a fine balance to look after them but still leave them independent, some days I hit the balance right and somedays I don’t. Each day we go with the flow, no set times for anything, I make plans and if I get to carry them out it’s a bonus. Keeping them happy, looked after and cared for is key. Your post is very welcome 💜

  5. I am just about to move into my parents house to give them more support. I have sold my house and am looking forward to being there for them. Obviously, it will be a huge change and will take a bit of adjustment. The worst thing is knowing that things wont get any better, only worse 😦

  6. I am not at the point of having to make decisions for my parents which is a good thing. However I would say that being sure there is a will in case hard decisions have to be made due to unforseen illness or other emergency situations.

  7. Important and informative Christy. I’m currently writing a book on life with a senior when I’m not quite there yet. My husband is 2 decades older than me. ❤

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