There’s a strange attitude that many people seem to have drilled into them from a very early age that asking for help from the people around them is somehow a sign of weakness. As though the only way to live your life properly is to never need anyone else and be completely independent all of the time. Sure, there’s something a little bit romantic about the idea of being a lone wolf who doesn’t need anyone else to get by, but actually living your life like that is not only difficult but it’s also incredibly lonely.
A good life is one where you’re willing to reach out to other people and understand the importance of accepting help when it’s offered to you. However, because of how we’re all trained to want to be independent, it’s not always easy. In order to get past that, here are some ways to make it easier to ask for help.
If something is wrong, then you’re never really going to get anywhere until you’re actually able to admit that fact and identify what the root of the problem is. One of the things that can strain many relationships, both romantic and otherwise, is the inability for people to be open and honest with each other when they’re struggling.
This isn’t just a matter of people not being truthful with each other, but it’s also a matter of not being honest with themselves either. Before you can reach out to the people around you, you’ve got to take the time to really understand what it is that’s causing the issue in the first place.
It’s one thing being able to understand a problem; it’s something else entirely to know what the solution is. There are often plenty of different solutions, and many of them can only really work with the support of those around you, but if you don’t understand what you want to do in order to make things better, no one else can either.
Whether it’s understanding that you’ve reached the stage where something like methadone treatment is the only option left for you, or even simply being aware that you need to start cutting certain things and people out of your life, only when you know can you help the people around you understand how they can best support you. Your friends and family might want to help in any way they can, but until they understand what you really need from them, there isn’t much that they can do.
It’s important to be aware that, even if they have your best interests at heart, sometimes the things that your friends and family have to say aren’t going to be easy to hear. After all, no one likes to hear that some of their problems are their own fault and responsibility.
But if you hide your head in the sand then things are only going to get worse. Make sure that you’re willing to listen to the people who care about you, even if the things that they have to say might sting.
These are all so true and practical Christy…
Listen to people who care about us…even if what they have to say may hurt us…
Excellent advice, dear Christy.
Blessings ~ Wendy <3
Great advice Christy… I think we have all been there at one point and time in our lives. Hearing sometimes can hurt but when others do it out of love advice comes easier. Never be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Once received you are most likely the person who will give freely to another…
These are such wise words! I’m blessed to have come across your blog 💙💙
I feel the same about your blog ♥
Aww thank you so much! That genuinely means the world to me 😁😁💗💗💗
You always manage to come up with such beautiful posts. I feel so much connected to this post.
I am not sure but i think i am too an addict and i should really seek out for help.
Thank you once again Christy
How nice that we both visited one another’s blogs yesterday! Regarding your thoughts about possibly being addicted, speak with someone close to you and they may advise you as to what the issue is, if there is one.. A loving friend or family member is a wonderful resource xx
I totally agree with you. Thanks once again dear
Absolutely agree with what you say! 💜💜 I wish more people let them selfs believe it’s ok to get help!
True. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness! Have a nice weekend :)
Thanks, you too!!!
I have a very personal take on this (as anyone else does, anyway) and I’m going to say just one thing. Loneliness is bad. Ask for help, fearlessly. Life will give you the chance to help back others in the future, that’s how it works.
This particularly caught me off guard… I’m one of those that don’t ask for help, it’s hard, but at times it’s better. It must be due to the type of people I’m surrounded with.
For many people, we grow up thinking asking for help signifies weakness.. but I’ve learned that when we reach out to others we can get even stronger. Thanks for taking time to read this one xx
Makes a lot of sense! Always a pleasure! I love learning something new, your blog is full of wisdom😊❤
Wonderful advice my darling xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx to you
Oh Shey, you’re beautiful xx
No no. You are that xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lovely words. :) Such peace and wisdom contained in them. I hope you’re well, sweet Christy. Sending you hugs and thank you for this reminder: I’m not always one to ask for help when I need it. This is a gentle reminder that it’s okay to do so. <3
Some very good words of wisdom here, Christy.
You are so right! Especially the part about listening…something I need to do more of…lol
All this happens with everyone at some point of life or the other. Really a great advice. Keep it up
This is what my next post is about, my dear of sharing about my addiction
Great advice! This is so true that asking for help is not a weakness rather it is an act of bravery. I have shared this post on StumbleUpon. Have a great weekend.
Cutting people out of your life is a tough choice – yet sometimes the wisest choice. My daughter will not keep company with people who are negative – in her personal life and at work. Great post, Christy!
I am a firm believer that when one is going through stuff that there is no shame in asking for help whether it be emotional, spiritual or financial. Life is too short to be mired in the muck of life.
I’m pretty much the independent type but now that I no longer drive I am learning the art of asking for help. When I’m trying to schedule a ride with Uber, which I have not mastered yet, I do not hesitate to ask for help. It is amazing how this makes me feel connected to a younger generation that delights in sharing their tech skills.
Guilty. Prior to kids, I lived a pretty independent lifestyle. My motto was, “I got this.” Then my son was born. At age 30, I had to face the hard truth that maybe it really does take a village (and not just when it comes to raising kids). It took me a while to change my ways and learn to lean on others. When I did, I realized I had been missing out on so much community – including knowing the privilege of giving back! I completely agree with you; we need to understand ourselves and our needs before we can reach out for help. None of us can do life alone. Wonderful post.
Another great post! 💁🏼
I feel the same about your blog!!
Thank you Christy! Much appreciated!
In young adults, like college students and new scholars, it seems they have high self-esteem, so they do not need help. Actually they need help, but most do not want to be helped. I’m sure you often meet young people who need help, but do not know that they need help! Many people want to help young people.
In old age, they need help from young people. But most young people are reluctant to help because there is no time. Many people do not want to help old people. If I was 100 years old, who would take me to Tracy Arm Fjord? Ha ha….
I read a lot of your posts, it feels like a student again ….. :)
Awww I’m glad you are feeling like a student, taking in the words, as I don’t believe we ought to ever stop learning :) Your words are sage reminders that being in tune between body and mind is essential to a better life. Hugs
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