In the past, women usually lived at home until they got married and started their own families. Thankfully, opportunities for women are far broader now, and many more women live alone for extended periods of time – and are contentedly happy single.
You deserve happiness
It could be that you’re flying solo by choice. Maybe you want to focus 100% on a career or have your own space (mentally and physically).
Or, it could be where you find yourself after a relationship breakup. Whatever the reason, if you’re a woman living alone you might find it somewhat isolating.
If you’re not yet totally comfortable that your lifestyle is a happy single one, the chances are that you’re not truly content. If that’s the case then it’s time to take steps to rock singledom.
There are absolutely benefits of living alone. Happy and single don’t have to be mutually exclusive!
Happy single you: Top benefits of living alone
There are many perks of being single. I will say it again and again: having a happy, fulfilled life doesn’t require a partner.
Happy single women have complete control over every aspect of their lives and don’t have to make any compromises to accommodate partners’ preferences.
Some people view it as a solitary way of life because you only need concern yourself with personal needs and desires. And there’s the opinion that you can lose touch with the wider world to some degree too.
It’s true that it can be easy to close yourself off from those around you when you live alone. Thus, if you don’t talk to your neighbors, it’s worth making an effort to get to know them better.
It also means you have someone to call on if you have a problem, and people will be more likely to look out for you if you’ve made a personal connection. If there are neighborhood or community groups active where you live, why not go to their meetings, projects, and social gatherings?
Being part of a community can be a valuable way to feel support. Knowing you’re in a caring network can be an amazing feeling!
You don’t need to become a leading light in community affairs, either; that’s not the point here. But lending a hand to improve the environment or showing up to a few social events can help you feel a sense of belonging within the community.
Social media and electronic communication are great ways to stay in touch with people who you don’t see very often, or make new friends and contacts through these platforms. But be careful of how much time you spend in the online space!
It can be all too easy to start conducting all of your social interactions online. And if this happens then you miss out on face-to-face communication of a deeper level and value.
However much you might love the benefits of living alone, such as having your own space, humans are social creatures by nature. Thus, being a happy single woman usually involves some level of personal interaction with other people.
Sure, your job might provide plenty of opportunities to meet and talk with people. But it depends on the type of work and who you’re around all day as to whether this constitutes a sufficient level of human interaction.
If you work from home, you might go days or even weeks without talking to anyone. For many people, it can be a miserable existence. It’s important to make an effort to meet up with friends and family regularly. If you’re in a new area, join local groups and actively get to know the people in your new neighborhood to expand your social circle.
When you don’t want to be alone
While many women are content to be alone, others crave the company of a partner. Before you start searching for a new love interest, though, be honest with yourself about what you want from a relationship.
Looking for someone just because you don’t like being alone or because you feel you aren’t complete without a partner are NOT healthy foundations for a good relationship.
If you’re used to being part of a couple, it might be tempting to try and find a new partner as soon as possible after a breakup. But the chances are that if you rush into a new relationship, you won’t make the best choices.
If you don’t enjoy your own company, ask yourself why. Once you answer this tough question honestly, then work on improving your self-esteem and confidence.
Not only will this self-work make you healthier and happier, but you’re more likely to attract a worthwhile partner by feeling self-confident. Remember, it’s easier for someone to love you if you love yourself first!
If you don’t love yourself, why should anyone else love you? That’s a harsh thing to write but it’s true, in my eyes.
If you struggle with self-esteem issues, work at changing any negative self-talk into a more positive internal dialogue. Practice will help this get easier – I know, I’ve done it!
Changing conversations going on in your head into healthier ones can help you learn to love yourself.
One of the joys or benefits of living alone is spending quality time with yourself. But to do so, you must be happy about who you are.
It can also be fun to find out about the kind of person you’re best suited to be with by taking personality and compatibility tests. This site shows what your horoscope says about you.
Happy single vs. relationship
We all know people who are in relationships and talk about how unsatisfied they are with the situation. That just goes to show that you can be happy single and unhappy in a relationship.
Of course, there are many content couples too.
I believe that before you can feel complete in a relationship, you have to feel happy with yourself. When you do feel you want to start dating again, there are a few options.
Obviously one strategy is to sit back and wait for your soulmate to walk into your life. Alternatively, you can be proactive and sign up for online dating or local singles events.
If you want to try online dating, it can be a bit of a minefield. It’s, therefore, important to be clear about who you are and what you want in a partner.
Different dating sites attract different kinds of people. Some sites are for people looking for casual dates and hook-ups. Meanwhile other platforms focus on matchmaking and finding a soulmate.
Choosing the right website is important, if you want to use an online medium for finding that special someone. By using a Christian platform, for example, you’re more likely to find people with the same faith.
Be open to guidance on how to use the sites and meet people safely to avoid problems. For example, don’t make your first date late at night.
Final thoughts on happy single living
There are benefits of living alone and also drawbacks, just like any other lifestyle. You can be happy single living on your own or miserable in a relationship just as easily as being unhappy alone or happy in a relationship!
The key to happiness is being at ease with yourself and knowing what you want. If you understand yourself, then you’re more likely to be content, whether you’re single or with a partner.