It’s Okay To Be Vulnerable

It's okay to ask for help
Asking for help involves feeling vulnerable. And that's okay. Photo via Pixabay, CC0 Creative Commons.
It's okay to ask for help
Asking for help involves feeling vulnerable. And that’s okay. Photo via Pixabay, CC0 Creative Commons.

Perhaps you’ve come to realize that you’re not coping very well, whether that be that you’re finding it hard to get motivated enough to get out of bed in the morning or you don’t feel like being social with your friends anymore. Or, maybe you’re getting over-frustrated at work. These are all signs that you may need to get help.

Unfortunately, a lot of people find it very hard to get help because it means being vulnerable, and that’s a very scary thing to do. But it’s also a relief to allow those walls to come down that may have been up for so long – you’re not having to put on that brave face anymore, you can just feel and get help to understand what’s going on, and how you can get better.

There are many ways to try to cope and manage the way that you feel. Here are just a few examples.

Struggling with an addiction.

If you’ve been struggling with an addiction, whether that be with drugs or alcohol – you need to get help. The problem with substances like these is that you begin using them because you want to. They may help you forget things or mask the pain that you’re feeling, and that’s exactly what you want. But there will come a time where you begin using these substances more and more because the effect starts to wear off as your body gets used to them. And, before you know it, you hit the stronger stuff and become highly dependent.

So, it’s extremely important that if you think you have a problem or other people have pointed it out to you – get the help that you need. Speak to your doctor and see what they advise you to do. There are many wonderful recovery centers like The Recovery Village Ridgefield that offer you the best around-the-clock care and support, while uncovering the deeper problem.

Talk about your feelings.

If you have supportive loved ones around you, whether that be your family members or your closest friends, know that they care about you and are always there to listen when you’re ready to talk. Sometimes you may not want to, which is fine, but it’s important that you don’t go too long without talking because you’ll find yourself sinking lower and lower, and then it’ll become harder and harder to get back up.

If you don’t want to talk to people within your circle though, go to your doctors and they will refer you to a professional that is trained to be that ear. Therapy is very helpful because while you may not understand why you’re feeling this way a professional may see other pieces to that puzzle that connect together that you may have never been aware of. If you still don’t feel ready for this, then talk to yourself, out loud. Or keep a journal, and write in it whenever you feel like it. Carry it around with you, and whenever you’re overcome with an emotion, write it all down.


  1. Another insightful post on life, Christy! Being vulnerable is nothing be ashamed of. We all have moments of uncertainty and feel like the world is against us, so feeling lost and without direction is a perfectly normal and natural feeling. Really like the point about talking about your feelings, and I find that it helps when you are talking to someone who is happy to be your sounding board and not something who aims to fix your problems. I have a few friends whom I talk to about my deepest feelings and they are very kind enough to not judge, not tell me to do this or that but give me their own opinions of my situation – which can help me see myself in a different light 🙂

  2. Hi Christy,

    you are doing a great job on your blog, and each post is unique and wonderful. It seems that the most important thing is to be honest with ourselves , right !

  3. Ive always found writing my way through things has helped especially if there is no one around to share things with, but always better to find someone to talk to as well. It is hard to allow ourselves to admit we are struggling, but we all do at times

  4. Gauging the negative impact is difficult and chancy. When I was young, showing vulnerability was not frightening. I had yet to see that human vultures would feast on it, whether in plain sight or behind a closed office door. Knowing when we can be less than a super hero, and when we need to fake invulnerability is so darned tricky! And absolutely — we have to be honest with ourselves, all the time. Hugs.

  5. That’s a really sensitive post, Christy. My relationship with my husband helped me realize that showing weakness, or admitting a problem isn’t wrong. Yet it is a bitter pill to swallow… thank you for sharing this!

  6. It is hard to be vulnerable… I am a very private person, so I don’t like to talk much about my feelings and what I’m doing, but I really should work on that. It’s just me bottling most of my emotions up, which isn’t healthy.

  7. The ability to be vulnerable has been my saving grace in life, especially considering the lack of support I’ve had in the family department. Asking for help can seem so daunting, but like anything else, it gets easier.

  8. Good tips Christy!
    I think at some point you need to let go of the idea that being vulnerable means being weak and do what’s right for you.
    We all have insecurities.Your best interest should be in mind always so stop thinking about being vulnerable and start taking care of yourself more.

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