I think being friends has to be at the core of a 21st-century romantic relationship. It is the glue, essentially, that holds together the good stuff that could potentially come with time, such as buying a home and having kids. Truthfully though I see this element lacking in some relationships around me, with the people within the couple wanting to have that special thing called “love” above all else (including genuinely liking the person they’re with). There are also satisfied couples around me. And there are so many ways for people to meet now, from online at Guernsey dating or elsewhere to in person. In my opinion, people can only find true happiness once they love themselves first; they can build on this happiness even more with a friendship that buds into a romance.
Friendship in Modern Society
The idea of being friends first isn’t easy, but it is possible. After all, Western society has more and more people stepping up in favor of equality and, in a friendship, people are typically equals. Plus, genuine friends do not have requirements of one another other than to be respectful to the other.
I also like that being a friend today is a choice, rather than feeling like it’s something you have to do. Also, friends are supportive of one another. Support is an important quality to have in a significant other, whether meeting through Kent dating or another avenue.
Striking a Deeper Connection
When you start as friends and then move onto a modern-day romance, I think you are also able to achieve a deep level of connection. This is true regardless of your age, with some people meeting over senior dating sites, Devon singles, or the like online.
This is more than just a connection over social media, which would likely only be surface level. While social media platforms, such as Facebook and Twitter, can prove useful for staving off loneliness and also helping us understand more about events in our world, there is a lot to be said for making face-to-face contact with others to forge a relationship and helping one another outside of public forums. This is a relationship that builds trust, which is an essential component of a romantic relationship.
Sustaining a Relationship
The reality is that when a romantic relationship starts, it is often full of a rush of giddiness, whether it came from a friendship or not. But over time these feelings settle, and it is then that you see more of who your significant other truly is at heart. In this phase of the young or more senior dating relationship (after the “honeymoon” phase), it is great to have it come from being friends first because then you already know so much about one another, have similar interests, and feel happy when you spend time together. Plus, you have already been supportive of one another so you can continue to do so.
When that initial sexual attraction wears, it is great to have a shared bond built through friendship to hold you two together. Entering your romance with shared ethics and likes, which connected you first in friendship, offers the opportunity for something more long-term. Be authentically you, from the start!