It’s OK To Ask For Help

Being a woman in today’s world is no easy ride. Between juggling work, family and a social life – the pressure can soon build up. As an independent woman, you might also feel pressure to handle problems on your own, which is how the deeper problems can manifest themselves. Rather than facing it alone, reach out and ask for help. A problem shared is a problem halved after all.

Knowing when it’s become too much

Reach out for support if your lifestyle has become unhealthy

She will ask for help to avoid burning out. Flickr, CC BY-ND 2.0.

Sometimes a problem can creep up on you before you even know it’s a problem. One late night at the office becomes two; two become five and the next thing you know it’s a weekly habit that you can’t shake. Burning out is common amongst women and you could be suffering without even knowing it.  You could be skipping meals, staying up too late or even pushing yourself too hard at the gym – soon you’re exhausting yourself and having a serious effect on both your mental and physical health.

Take a look at your routine. Has it always been like this? Or are these new habits a recent development? You might have had an event trigger this change or felt a new pressure to do well at work or at home. Comparing yourself to others is another way you might start to feel the pressure which can force you to push yourself too hard. Take a real good look in the mirror and ask yourself if you’re happy and if your lifestyle is healthy. If the answer isn’t ‘yes,’ then it’s time to ask for help.

How to get the help you need

How you get the help you need can largely depend on what the problem is. If you’re struggling to manage your workload then it’s your employer who should be able to help you and do what they can to ease it. If you’re doing too much at home, talk to your partner about how they can help. For problems without an easy solution, like feeling depressed or suffering from low self-esteem than professional help may be the answer.

It’s important that you don’t turn to substances to help you with your problems. A glass of wine at night may seem fine to start with to ease the stress of the day, but how long until you start to depend on it? The same goes for prescription medication, which you may have started taking for an actual medical condition but come to rely upon it to get you through the day. If you feel like it’s beyond the point of just stopping, then going to rehab or undertaking a rapid opiate detox might be another step that you have to take on your path to wellness. Sharing your feelings with others can ease your dependence on vices to make you satisfied, and alert them to how you feel so that they can keep any eye on you.

When you take a step back and realize where you’ve been going wrong, you should take steps to get your health back on track for both your mental and physical wellbeing. Recovering from a knock or a bad patch will take time, so don’t be discouraged if you don’t feel better overnight. Take each day as it comes and be sure to ask for help when you need it.

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41 thoughts on “It’s OK To Ask For Help

  1. This is a really important issue and I’m so please you are bringing light to it. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it is human and necessary. Great post.

  2. Absolutely spot on with this one.. So knowing the juggling act of keeping a full time high pressured job running a home with two children too.. It does catch up .. And if we ignore the signs like I did, it will come up to bite you hard..
    For it is then only a trivial thing which will be added to the mix that will be the last straw to break the camels back as they say..
    So wise words of advice
    ❤ Love and Hugs

  3. Thank You for this. I have always thought that ‘no one will understand’, then I keep whatever issues I have, to myself, which complicates things..But I am gradually getting to learn that we all have more in common than we think.
    So I know I don’t feel alone anymore, I can now ask for help and confide in certain people..

  4. Great post – I’ve been there, and I’ll bet most women have.

    I was married for 18 years and when I went through the divorce, I was so stressed. I decided to not drink ANY alcohol for 2 years, for two reasons. I didn’t want it to be a crutch, and I wanted to feel all of it, so I could get past it. And, it was my idea to divorce! It’s a hard thing no matter if you want it or not.

    Thanks for sharing.

  5. Great tips I liked when you say above: “Comparing yourself to others is another way you might start to feel the pressure which can force you to push yourself too hard”. WE´d better use ourselves as “model or point of reference”, for good or bad. Having other parameters can reinforce us and help us improve… But change is a personal proccess and we are in charge, right!?. . HUGS ❤

  6. Thank you for this Christy. I really appreciate the power of writing that’s why young as I am now, I’m dreaming that someday, somehow people will realize it’s genuine value. I just bumped into your article not knowing that as of the moment, these words/ideas are the things I needed the most, not just to me but to a friend of me. So thank you for this one Christy. I salute your wordings and all! Best regards. XOXO 🙂

  7. It’s really good to share our problems with our near dear ones and in today’s busy life all are living with different kind of pressures. Really good work dear. Kudos! Sorry previous comment half posted.

  8. I loved this Christy. We are natural born woman warriors and most definitely take on too much and we’re also the ones who tend to exert ourselves because we take care of ourselves last a lot of the time. 🙂 ❤

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  13. Been in this situation more frequently than I like to admit. Women today are often expected to be Superwomen, and if we don’t manage everything from home to job to family perfectly no one is harder on us than ourselves. Sometimes the most important thing a woman can do is give herself permission to not do everything; to leave something undone or not worry if the house is spotless, etc. Sometimes we need help, or at least to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves.

    • Yes! It’s ok to reach out for help and, in fact, many people would love to be able to help as it’s a great feeling! Thanks Amy and I’m so glad you realize you don’t have to be heroic every moment of the day xx

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