Not everyone is lucky in love, and some women end up reaching their late thirties still single. There’s nothing wrong with this, of course, and the majority of older single women are very happy with their lives and relationship status. However, the question about children can often weight on their minds.
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Female fertility starts to drop off over the age of forty. Past this age, it can be very difficult to conceive naturally. So, there is no wonder that many older single women start to consider raising a child on their own while they are still able to conceive. As they don’t have a partner, though, they need to think about their options. Here are some of the best.
Lots of single women consider finding a sperm donor. There are various ways you can go about this, but the most common is to sign up to an agency that will pair you up with potential anonymous donors. You then get a list of each donor’s’ personality traits and physical characterizations and can then choose one to fertilize your eggs with. Lots of women like this option as the sperm donor is completely anonymous and doesn’t have to be a part of the child’s life.
You might like the idea of signing up to a surrogacy agency and going down the surrogacy route. This is an especially popular option for women who can’t get pregnant themselves for various reasons. You just need to find a surrogate who will carry the baby for you. When couples choose this option, they often fertilize their own eggs, and these are then planted into the surrogate mother’s womb. As a single woman, you might need to find a sperm donor, as mentioned above.
Read the first handbook for the rapidly growing number of American women choosing single motherhood, written by the director of the national organization, Single Mothers by Choice.
If either of the above options aren’t possible, you might want to think about adopting a child. This is an easy way to become a parent without having to go through pregnancy. Because of this, many women who have good careers choose to adopt so that they don’t have to take a long time off work for the pregnancy. You can choose the age of the child you adopt, so whether you want a newborn baby or a ten-year old is entirely up to you. However, you should bear in mind that babies are often in demand, so you might have to wait a fairly long time until one is ready for you.
If you like the idea of becoming a parent naturally in a few years’ time but are worried that you might lose your fertility before then, you can always freeze your eggs. Your eggs are removed from you, frozen at very low temperatures and then thawed out whenever you decide to use them. They will need to be fertilized by the sperm in a test tube before being implanted back into your womb.
So, just because you are single, there is no reason to think that you will never have a family. There are plenty of options available!
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Christy, thank you for your support. I really appreciated it.
I feel the same way, Vanessa. xx
I’ve had some Vietnamese women friends tell me that they are tired of waiting for a quality guy and some women there just have a baby on their own. One of the biggest differences between walking the streets of Hanoi compared to Nanjing was that in Hanoi a lot more men were loitering in street cafes drinking tea or coffee while playing chess or chatting.
I’ve often thought adoption could be rewarding.
In a world falling apart, what with war destroying families in the Middle East and all places east and west, making adoption an easy thing for both straight, gay and aliens from outer space even, is something governments should make easier than it is. Made easier, maybe it would fulfill the dreams of parents in waiting.
Très bon sujet.
Bonne journée Christy.
It’s great that there are options now, and so much of the stigma is gone whatever a woman decides – not everywhere, but in many places. Slowly, slowly we are getting there. :-)
Surrogacy and egg donation are modern blessings for women, even for couples who face infertility and other such problems. Single mothers can think of these options only if they live in advanced societies. More than 50% of women are still living far away from such opportunities!
Or you can be a pet “mom” LOL
Haha ;) Bow-wow!
Great tips Christy. Women tend to have children later in life in this generation and with so many options it’s viable. :) xx
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So, everyone needs someone.
We are all human.
It is hard to find the right man if you are a woman.
It is hard to find the right woman if you are a man.
But, if we have someone (e.g. child, parent, or friend), then we should be happy.
I totally love this post! I’m a single woman myself currently trying to get pregnant using a Sperm donor. It is a huge emotional struggle but so worth it!
Wishing you all the best!
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