Women have been told what to do with their bodies for a long time. Once, we were but vessels for a man’s child (preferably a boy because, well, you know…). Of course, things have come a long way since then. Women got the vote, and with it, a voice with which to be heard. But, when it comes to pregnancy, the chances are that a lot of people will still try to tell you what to do.
Something strange happens when you’re growing a child. People think they have a right to you, so long as they have that child’s best interests at heart. And, yes, the child is the priority. But let’s not forget that your needs should come into play as well. Your birth, therefore, should be down to no one but you. Instead of listening to the opinions you’ll hear, stick to what you know is best. To help, here are a few ways to ensure your birth is right for you.
Popular Isn’t Always Best
A lot of mothers never understand the choices available to them. Everyone else goes into hospital, so they do the same. Most people choose a bed birth, so they disregard water or interactive options. But, it’s important to bear in mind that what’s popular may not be best for you.
You may not want your child born in a sterile, disinfected hospital. Is that the first place you want them to see? Yet, the suggestion of giving birth away from medical professionals is enough to make many mothers quake. Why? Because it’s not the norm! In truth, there’s no reason a home birth can’t run smooth. There are, of course, risks. But, there’s no reason this can’t work if you develop a proper plan with a medical professional. An obstetrician who specializes in pregnancy planning, will be able to put your mind at ease about any doubts. Together, you can also ensure you have an emergency plan in place should you need one.
To Scream Or Not To Scream?
It’s also worth considering whether you want a silent birth or not. Again, this is a decision only you can make, and there are pros and cons to both sides of the argument. Silent birth mothers claim that they don’t want their child entering the world to cries. And, that does make some sense. But, that doesn’t mean your child will be traumatized if you do choose to make noise throughout. Birth is so traumatic for the baby that they forget everything, anyway. So, if you feel making noise would help you, don’t hesitate to do so.
Accept That Plans Change
No matter what pregnancy plans you make, it’s also important to accept that plans change. A successful birth is about taking care of you and baby, no matter what. If you don’t feel comfortable at home, make arrangements to go to a hospital. If you planned to be silent but feel the need to scream, just do it!
27 thoughts on “It’s Your Birth, You Can Scream If You Want To”
Wonderful post. Its so true. Many parents have no idea the wide range of birth options available today. ❤
This is fun read. I love the conclusion. Plans always seem to change.
True! Welcome to the community :)
I think this blog is so informative! It answers so many questions many pregnant women long to ask. I
Great to hear!
Loved this! A wonan’s prerogative! And always have a back up plan because one never knows when a baby is ready to birth. :) xo
Great addition about the backup plan :) Thanks for your reads and support here, Debby <3
My pleasure Christy <3
Haha, love the title, and I tend to agree.
Good advice Christy. Totally agree with all your commenters here too xxxxxxx
ALL good points, Christy. I have long said that a pregnant woman is NOT to be relegated to the role of “host organism” — her life matters too (and she has tenure!).
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Good advice for expectant mothers. They must choose what they feel is best for them.
Quel bel article !!!
Great post, thanks so much ❤️ I had both of by babys without any pain medications. The first one in bed and the second doing yoga and in water. After my experience birth should not be done laying down in bed. My second birth was so much better for both 🌸❤️
Wow .. I have not had any kids yet but can’t wait to have them ..
but my biggest fear is child birth & body changing and reading your post ,you not having any medication while in labour
Your a superwoman 😊
I have always wondered about water birth
Would it would ease of pain a little
Thanks so much, your to sweet 💮 I can totally recommend water birth and doing yoga before birth. This is great for opening up and I can totally recommend without any medications and without laying in a bed. I did not have to sow anything after birth. Remember to breath ❤️
Your welcome .. do you think yoga gives you more strength and stamina for pain .. to control your self better
I would like a water birth once I do have kids
But I don’t know if I could personally handle it with medication .
Yes yoga gives for sure more strengt, focus and breath controll. It also opens up much easier and you use your body and work with it. It’s amazing. I can recommend doing yoga before baby comes and in birth. I can’t describe how much this helped me. And out comes a true miracel, the love of your life ❤️
I will keep this in mind for when I do need it 🙃
Thank you very much
Yeh a bit of pain or toucher lol 😂
Will be nothing
Compared to a life time of a miracle and blessings of having a child 👶🏻 😍xx
Yep do that. My pleasure 🌸Just ask if there is anything I can contribute with regarding birth. Happy day ❤️
Thanks for sharing your advice, Nina!
Your so welcome 🌸💕
Awesome article! I had both of my girls without any pain medications, but at the end you could have given me anything and I would have taken it! hahahaha! Well, our good old german midwives are not that fond of early complains, and rather send you up and down the hospital staircase in order to get your labor going! But I absolutely agree. Happiest days of my life! :)
Great post, Christy! Birth is a traumatic event for both mother and child. LOL! I remember both my boys births like they happened yesterday and they were so different, just like they are. :)