The term “independent woman” need not only apply to a single woman. Instead, let’s talk about how a woman can hold onto her independence and strength while still being in a romantic relationship. Firstly, what exactly is an independent woman?
Defining an Independent Woman
To be independent, regardless of one’s gender, is to refuse to be under another person’s control, whether this control is in thought or action. I think a lot of men and women respect this way of being as it is strong-willed and genuine.
In fact, I would argue that independence in a woman is a very attractive feature for many people. I won’t say all people because not everyone likes the same things, as with any other aspect of life.
Regarding the “strong” aspect of a woman, this article refers to emotional strength, rather than the physical variety. Strong women are not trying to emulate men but instead embrace their femininity and know their own worth.
Issues with Female Independence in a Relationship
Unfortunately, that very likeable quality of independence in a woman may later become the very same thing that later hinders a relationship. For example, she may refuse to let her partner help her, not wanting to be a burden to someone else.
This woman must then deal with the full emotional burden and stress that comes with this particular project, all on her own. As for the other person in the relationship, this individual may feel unwanted. Ultimately, the relationship suffers, from both sides, whether it is in the dating phase or marriage.
Staying A Strong Independent Woman AND Helping the Relationship
But, what if I said there was a way to be a strong independent woman and have a healthy relationship, all at the same time? I would even go so far as to argue that her independence can IMPROVE a relationship.
For example, consider the area of hobbies. They are great ways to explore the world, have fun, and escape everyday stresses. When two people in a relationship have separate hobbies, there is time spent apart from one another.
Each person has their own time to be uniquely themselves. The woman can affirm her independence and what she loves to do, which may not be the same thing as her partner. Unique expression is beautiful and breeds self-confidence. She likely feels strong.
Some Activities Apart & Having Her Own Friends
Also, consider a relationship in which the two people in it are always doing things together and have all mutual friends. This description is one of an unbalanced relationship. While depending on one another is good, over-dependency is not healthy.
Opt for some separate time during the week; she can have her own friends, and her partner has a unique group apart from that. This method, which centres around an independent woman and her mate, can better a relationship because it builds trust between them and enables them both to be apart but also together in the long run.
Lastly, when a woman stays strong and independent, then she is more likely to be herself, rather than a cardboard version of what her mate wants her to be. She can choose her aspiration, friends, hobbies, job, hairstyle, and anything else she likes. And, here is what is perhaps the best part: In a healthy relationship, the partner loves her for being her unique self! Will she also love her partner for this very same reason? In a balanced union, the answer is a resounding yes.
What are your thoughts on how being a strong independent woman can better a relationship?