I Don’t Believe You, I Do

A powerful perspective on sexual assault and, in particular, the Bill Cosby issue. Thank you to Val of QBC_Tilted Tiara for writing such a thought-provoking post. Reblog!

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OpEdSince the beginning of the Bill Cosby fiasco, I have remained silent; I have chosen not to speak. I did this for a reason, not because I had nothing to say or because I believed one side or the other; no that wasn’t it. It also wasn’t out of respect for Bill Cosby or the women who were coming forward, this wasn’t in my mind, as I watched all the media, social and regular rip both sides of this story to shreds.

Everyone taking sides, everyone with an opinion, everyone prepared to judge, everyone no matter their knowledge or qualifications prepared to render a decision.

I watched and I listened. I read the comments on the various stories. Some of the comments caused my heart to shrivel, others made me want to jump into cyberspace and hunt down the anonymous person without a soul who felt a need to spew…

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15 thoughts on “I Don’t Believe You, I Do

  1. As a man my heart goes out to all victims of sexual assault and I must add I feel shame when the perpetrator goes without being held accountable. I am not in a position to judge, never have been and never will be. Years past our justice system would have dealt with accusations in a just manner, unlike today.
    Too those who do step forward and face the wrongful opinion of the public I applaud you for your strength and courage. It is because of you the truth comes fourth and these individuals are brought to justice. Keep up the fight…

    Hugs Christy for bringing this to light…

    • Hi Rolly, Yes, it’s important for victims (women and men) to come forward. However, what is sad today is that they are not always believed. I hope that changes in time. Your comment is appreciated!

  2. Brava Christy for reblogging this wonderfully, sad truth of a blog. There is much buzz on the Cosby issue, still labelled as ‘allegations’. Perhaps when women in numbers begin to speak up everywhere, voices will be heard. Reblogging is another means of shouting out. ❤

  3. Hi Christy,

    Thank you for posting a very thought-provoking post on sexual assault. It is unfortunate that women who have been raped are further victimized with the insinuation that they brought this upon themselves. This article brought to mind the House GOP’s attempt to redefine rape under the guise of limiting government abortion funding. This new definition would exclude women who are drugged or incapacitated by alcohol, statutory rape, or incest. Under this definition, Bill Cosby’s allegations would not be constituted as rape.

    Another controversy brought to mind is when Katherine Hnida told Sports Illustrated that she had been raped by one of her teammates at the University of Colorado in 2000 and sexually harassed on other occasions. She was one of several women who reported being assaulted by members or recruits of the Colorado football team during this time. Colorado coach Gary Barnett denied Hnida’s allegation in a statement and criticized Hnida’s abilities as a player. It took a lot of courage for Katherine to report this, but she was also discredited for coming forth.

    A lot of this mindset about rape is ingrained in our culture, as evidenced by the percentage of women who do not report rape based on this article. Hopefully, this will change with more education and people speaking out

    Best wishes,
    Linnea

    • Linnea, You brought up such an important issue here. If there is a stigma associated with victims of sexual assault, then those unreported numbers of women who have been raped is only going to increase. It’s unfortunate that many women are further victimized by society. Change takes time but I hope it comes soon xo Thank you for your impressive comment here.

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