Can You Be A Mom And Still Be You?

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Me time as a mother
Maintaining one's sense of self after becoming a mom IS possible. Photo via Pexels (CC0).
Me time as a mother
Maintaining one’s sense of self after becoming a mom IS possible. Photo via Pexels (CC0).

No matter what age you are when you become a mom, your life will change. You could be barely an adult or about to enter middle age; whichever one applies, you’re still going to go through a lot of the same experiences. Regardless of your background or other personal details, you will notice that you completely change. You no longer put yourself first because now you have this incredible little life (or more of them) to care for. At first, it can be overwhelming. But, before long, it just becomes natural. You’re a mom, and you’re enjoying most of the journey (everyone has their moments). But you may find that you don’t always feel like yourself anymore – and that doesn’t have to be the case. Because you can be a mom and still be you.

Get Into A Rhythm

First of all, to make this happen, you really have to get yourself into a good rhythm. This is easier said than done but if you can find a schedule or routine that works for your family then you’re going to be able to nail this mom thing and have more time to feel like you again. When things start to work a little more like clockwork, you are in a better position to avoid stressful moments and feel like you’ve got this.

Have A Hobby

If you manage to free up a little more time, or just make better use of the time you have, you’ll be able to indulge in a little something for you. So, find a hobby. Whether it’s something that you choose to do one evening per week or while the kids are at school – do it. You will be able to have that one hour here or there to dedicate to yourself, to then come back fully refreshed for more mom duties.

Find Support

You may also need to get yourself some support because being a mom is tough. Sometimes, you get stressed out, and at other times you’ll find yourself needing some advice. This is where something such as the tips from innerparents comes in, or a close circle of other moms. You need to have that support; they’re there to help you when times feel tough.

Keep Working

Next, you’ll likely find that it’s worth your time to keep on working – even if it’s from home. Lots of people love the idea of being a full-time mommy but it can be exhausting, and you can lose yourself in it. But, by keeping your job or choosing to volunteer, you have something else to focus on, in addition to parenting.

Make Room For ‘Me Time’

Finally, you’re also going to want to make room for some ‘me time’. It’s not being selfish. And it can just be a few minutes – these ideas can help. But you do need to ensure that you can recharge and regroup so that you know you’re still you!

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  2. I am struggling with finding the rhythm. As you so rightly said without a rhythm its really difficult for me to find time for my family let alone me.
    Also i love that you advice to continue working…In spite of it being such a struggle to balance a busy work schedule with my family..i am just not able to quit my job….just so that i dont lose my own identity.

  3. I felt like this when I first had my bub, that’s probably one of the reasons why I started to blog so that I could collect my thoughts and not just be in survival mode… thanks for the tips 🙂 taking some me time is def part of my New Years resolution for 2018

  4. I struggle with finding “me time” and not feeling guilty about having something else to do! When I worked, I would come home and binge watch tv, but now, I feel like if I do that, I’m being a lazy stay at home mom! I always have something else I need to do or work on!

  5. As a mother of 3 boys (ages 13, age 10, and age 1) and I can tell you that this article is so true. I love that this article is here for new moms to read because its important for any mom really to make time for themselves because we cant care for our kids unless we care for us and that means our sanity too. I love this article.

  6. I feel like I really needed to read this right now! I’ve only been a mom for 2.5 years but I do feel not like myself at times. Just recently decided to blog about it and already feel like using that as my “me time” has helped. Such a good article.

  7. I am a little over 3 months post partum and this could not be more true!! I love my little girl more than life itself but trying to still be me and a mom is hard. Great post! I go back to work soon (as a critical care nurse) and I am surprisingly really looking forward to it. It is only 3 days a week so I am happy to still have plenty of time off to play with my daughter!

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