The Tough Challenges We Face as Our Parents Grow Older

It’s easy to think that our parents are going to be around forever, isn’t it? it’s easy to think they’ll always be the same and never grow older, and subsequently always be fit and healthy enough to look after us. Unfortunately, however, Father Time always has his way, and these hopes and dreams are squashed. Unfortunately, our parents grow old and it’s not them that has to look after us anymore, it’s us that looks after them. Whether you want to or not, you will more than likely have to face this. And for when you do have to face it, make sure to remember the advice on doing so that is given below.

Share the parental care responsibilities with siblings, if possible
Advice for when it comes time to look after our parents in their later stages of life. Pixabay image (CC0).

Expect that they will be frustrated, and don’t let it stop you

Your parent will become frustrated at the fact that they cannot do a lot of the things that they have been able to do their whole life, that’s just a given. And, if you want to give them the best care possible, you’re going to have to accept these frustrations and push through them anyway in respect to them and the job they have done for you their whole life. Specifically, if these frustrations are born of your parent not wanting their home to be changed to aid them in their elderly condition, such as having a stair lift fitted, then you must have the necessary changes fitted anyway.

Always try to share the burden with others

You can’t do it alone. As much as you might want to or try to, you just can’t do it. This is a demanding job in terms of what you will have to do and when you will have to do it (24/7). So, share the burden with any siblings you have. And, most importantly, ask for help from your spouse or maybe even your children. Seek help from professional social workers. By doing so you will not only ease the pressures placed on yourself, but you will also help your parent too because of the fact that they will still get to interact with a number of different people on a daily basis.

Do not fear the end

Eventually, the time will come when you have to say goodbye to one of the only people in your life that has always been around and there for you. Yes, no matter how long your care for your ageing parent and no matter what standard of care and life you provide for them, their time to go will come. It’s important not to fear this end, and it’s equally vital to stay calm when it is upon you and continue to care for your parent. Specifically, it’s important to remain calm and provide your parent with the end of life care that they will need. No matter how tough a time it is, it is imperative to keep the comfort of your parent in mind and, in turn, keep them as comfortable as possible.

For more advice on dealing with an ageing parent and ensuring they still get all they can out of life, make sure to check this helpful article out.

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30 thoughts on “The Tough Challenges We Face as Our Parents Grow Older

  1. My middle sister has taken on a lot of the responsibilities of taking my parents to appointments and going grocery shopping with them. My parents don’t like to talk about any sort of preparation for what to do as their health declines, so it’s a hard call to say how things will be dealt with in the coming years.

  2. In our culture, the youngest simbling takes care of the parents because they inherit the family home. If its an only girl or boy, then its thier responsibility. Usually parents dont like being put up in old age homes. they like being with the family. But now a days the younsters prefer to dump their parents some place. Some think money can solve thei problems, others who dont have money and are forced to stay with their parents treat them badly.

    For all of the troubles that they had to put with in raising us, I think they should be respected and loved and made very comfortable till the very end. Even if no else will recognize your hardship, GOD will and wll bless you abunduntly. Thats my take and you are absolutely right. I just wanted to give an Indian perspective for the readers

  3. Great post Christy. By my mid 30’s my parents had already passed away and I wonder what it would be like if they were still alive. I do remember the challenges they faced as they aged and know that it’s very tough on the family to watch and to provide care. It is important for the caregivers to take time for themselves (I volunteer in the local senior home and see people resent the elderly because they feel guilty if they don’t visit every day – they need to take time to care for themselves too). And as you mentioned, respect is the key – we do not choose how old we are and we cannot change it. Unfortunately, many ailments cause people to get short-tempered and well, just ‘not themselves’ – that’s frustration and very hard on the family as you have to sit quietly and show them that you love them.
    Thank you again, for another great post Christy!

  4. Such a moving post, and poignant for me given my current situation. It can be so hard. Frustrating for the child too when you feel as though there’s not enough you can do. Thank you for writing this.x
    Caz

  5. “Don’t fear the end” is my fave topical advice here. I say this as my parents & in-laws have passed. In their passing, fear came to me. I was not afraid for them, I was afraid for me. It was a clear knowing that my day will come.

  6. Frustration – you are spot on Christy. My Dad battles with me regularly and I just have to listen but push on anyway. I need the companion carers to call so that I get out for a break (there is just me to care for M & D) and you are right, this now gives M & D new visitors that they look forward to seeing. We’ve recently had a mini battle over a stairlift. I didn’t push the issue and Dad bless him asked me to order it. It will be fitted next week. I always feel so guilty, but if it will assist and ease pain then it has to be done. Another great post, thank you 💖xx

  7. The saddest part is that the hardships gone through while taking care of elders go unnoticed neither by those elders themselves nor by the people around us ! We would have all the strength to face these challenges only when we remember the love & affection showered by them when we were young !

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  9. I find myself suddenly facing a mom it’s Altzeimers, a father with cancer, and a mother-in-law with dementia. Everyone became ill at once. It’s a lot to process. Thanks for the post. It helps.

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