Bearing The Brunt: Supporting Your Partner Through A Life-Threatening Illness

Emotional and medical effects for your partner and you
Emotional and medical effects for your partner and you
Research your partner’s medical condition but don’t fall into a trap of over-Googling it. Do what you are able to find out about treatment options from verified specialists. Pexels, CC0 License.

It’s never the best news if somebody you love is diagnosed with a life-threatening condition and it can have a major effect on, not just your partner, but the both of you as a couple. There are many instances of people who have been placed under so much pressure due to a disease or general health issues that they have been torn apart, which can have a devastating effect on the families too. So if you are in that position where someone you care deeply about has been diagnosed with a major health condition there are things to do so you look after your partner but also, you need to make sure that you look after yourself, and here is how.

Make Sure You Research The Condition Thoroughly

It’s in your best interests to do as much research into the condition as possible so you can support them the best of your ability. And not just the emotional repercussions but the medical ones. There is plenty of information online so you can find various approaches to helping your partner deal with an illness. If your partner is suffering from a type of cancer that is potentially life-threatening, it’s important for you to get an overall perspective of how to best progress with the disease, especially when you look at things like alternative therapies. There are some details on the Comprehensive Urology services website in relation to various cancers and the alternative therapies if surgery is not possible. It’s important when researching to not fall into the trap of over-Googling symptoms but do what you can to find the best course of action through verified health specialists.

Providing Moral Support

When your partner is going through treatment, it should go without saying that you need to be there for them every step of the way as their body and mind are going to be in a very sensitive position due to treatments like chemotherapy. But it can be difficult to provide that moral support if you’re going through a difficult time yourself, but it is important to understand that you need moral support also. Take advantage of three many focus groups and support networks that are provided for people going through illness as well as their partners and close family members. There is a lot more support than you think there is out there. You also need to think about looking after your mental well-being as the constant pressures of being in and out of hospital can have a devastating impact on your frame of mind, so you need to know the right methods in which to look after yourself. From mindfulness, meditation or something as simple as taking a walk you need to know when to put the brakes on when it all gets too much, especially as you will be bearing the brunt for your partner.

When someone you love has been diagnosed with any type of condition it can have a major impact on your sense of self, so you need to cope with the stresses of this unique type of journey by supporting your partner and yourself as best as you can.

19 thoughts on “Bearing The Brunt: Supporting Your Partner Through A Life-Threatening Illness”

  1. I believe your inner strength is remarkable. All the research that you have done, the support, the mindfulness, and keeping yourself together in order to keep “The New Normal” present around you & family. You are truly an inspiration.

  2. Christy, my wife has been going through a lot, but we are in it together, being siamese twins for a long time together, 40 years! Your message is wonderful, and meaningful! Love you my sister!

  3. When my father was diagnosed with Inclusion Body Myositis (IBM), my mother pretty much sacrificed her life for the next five years, until he passed away. She would barely leave the house because she didn’t want to leave him alone. For about three of those years, she didn’t even go to church on Sunday morning, and they sat together and listened to the service on the radio. And she never complained. It was an incredible thing to see. He passed away a month before they would have been married for 58 years.

    She’s going to church again, and is very active with the other ladies at the church, now. But she never begrudged the sacrifices she made for my dad. Theirs was a love that you don’t see much any more.

  4. Been there, and yes, each situation is unique. There are many illnesses which can move along a lot faster than cancers. I say: take Christy’s advice, and take one day at a time.

  5. I’m with Ben, morale support being very important, as well as being there, if needed, knowing when space may be required also.

    Must admit, am not one for researching ‘a condition’ online, mainly due to reliability of the information that may be found. I did once do it whilst I had a sick relative and felt it only made my thoughts worse.

  6. Being a life partner of someone is a bliss and life partner are meant to be together in every thick and thin. This is the Real time that you have mentioned when one really seem for mental support from their partners.The proper love, care and mental support with proper treatment many times work like a miracle and will power of the patient to survive increases with it. Again a wonderful post dear.

  7. this offers great tips for supporting and managing crisis- although I have heard some medical professionals “warn” folks about researching too much after diagnoses – like one doc told her that it will make their heads spin. and could confuse them –
    and while I agree with the confusion that can sometimes ensue from backyard researching – it could actually help people get better care and they also bring in a lot more accountability to the pros that are caring for them.
    many doctors are very ignorant when it comes to the “process of cancer” and when patients and their families read up and “know their stuff” – it brings the doctor into accountability mode.
    and this is especially true with auto immune problems – our health care does well with surgery – gunshot wounds – and prescription writing – but because of their med school training – they continue to remain in the dark over GI disorders (until they become a huge problem and lead to something major) –
    well i could go on and on
    but what pisses me off is that refined sugar suppresses immune system – and if someone has cancer – it can feed the process of cancer in their body – but most doctors never talk to their patients about “getting off sugar” (they usually serve cookies in the waiting room) and they never talk about the immune system./
    want to fight disease?
    rebuild the immune system and get a kick ass bio terrain going …..

  8. Great post Christy,

    moral support is very important .Maybe the most important thing in that state.
    When you have someone who can tell “everything will be fine”, you are really blessed .

    Thank you

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