Maintaining a marriage takes work. Pixabay photo (CC0).
In the hard grind of life, sometimes you can get bogged down in the mundane and forget about maintaining your marriage. Because you spend so much time running around trying to sort out the kids and keep the house in some kind of orderly fashion, finding just a moment to stop and reflect can be difficult.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you are failing, it’s just a small indication that you need to reassess your current situation and figure out some ways to renew your love and get back in touch. Marriage is a long haul and it’s as much about listening to each other and respecting each other as it is about confirming your love every day.
I think being friends has to be at the core of a 21st-century romantic relationship. It is the glue, essentially, that holds together the good stuff that could potentially come with time, such as buying a home and having kids. Truthfully though I see this element lacking in some relationships around me, with the people within the couple wanting to have that special thing called “love” above all else (including genuinely liking the person they’re with). There are also satisfied couples around me. And there are so many ways for people to meet now, from online at Guernsey dating or elsewhere to in person. In my opinion, people can only find true happiness once they love themselves first; they can build on this happiness even more with a friendship that buds into a romance. Continue reading