Being a Carer: Health and Happiness for You and Them Too

Being a carer can mean many things, whether it is to an elderly relative or someone with a physical or mental condition, disability, or addiction. For some, it’s being a full-time caregiver with a huge number of responsibilities. For others, it means helping out a couple of hours a week. However much you help care for someone, it can take its toll on both you and them. You end up spending a lot of time together, even when you might not really want to, and you can both have your own problems to deal with. If you’re finding it hard and want to make both of you healthier and happier, here are some things that could be helpful. Continue reading

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Pursuing Happiness: Why We May Be Missing the Point

Busy Pursuing Happiness

Rushing Around Every Day. Image via Pixabay (CC0 Public Domain).

Pursuing “the happy.” Being content, emotionally satisfied, and joyful. It’s a common goal, right? “The Pursuit of Happyness” was an endearing movie starring Will Smith, “Don’t Worry Be Happy” became a runaway hit song from Bobby McFerrin, and the happy face emoji lights up the screens of our smartphones. So, why can’t any of us seem to find our happy place? Or, have we found it and just don’t realize we’re there already?

Busy, Busy Lives

At first, I just wrote the subheading as “busy lives,” but then I realized life is getting even busier for most people. Just when you think more can’t be added onto the day, there’s another task at the office or one more email to send. Oh, and did you remember to phone Jackie or fill out the form for the school trip for your child next week?

So, yes, we’re busy. And it’s come with a price.

Lack of Connection

People are looking at their smartphones more than at one another’s faces while rushing to and from appointments. There isn’t the same level of intimacy between people anymore.

True, I’m generalizing, I know it. Not everyone is this way. But the last time I was sitting at Tim Hortons, I couldn’t help but notice the large number of people eating while staring at their phones rather than talking to the person on the other side of the table.

Losing a Sense of Connection

Staring at Smartphone, Missing the Chance to Make an In-Person Connection. Image via Pixabay (CC0 Public Domain).

Where Does the Time Go?

Family demands are juggled with work and daily chores. Many people feel there is not enough time in the day for all of the tasks that need to be accomplished. I used to joke that there should be 25 hours in a day. Now I realize that the extra hour would be spent with more activities rather than being spent relaxing. More time just means filling it with more stuff from a bigger to-do list.

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