Motherhood comes with so many pros, but there are a few cons too. Mainly, giving birth takes its toll on your body and mind. It’s rare that you come out the other side feeling exactly as you’d done before being pregnant. Normally, it takes awhile for your body and mind to adjust to your new way of life, and the prospect of being a mum can feel very daunting.
Add a crying newborn baby into the mix, and it can be especially damaging on the mental side of things. This is what leads a lot of new mothers to slip into something known as postpartum depression. The most accurate description of this is that you have feelings of depression brought about because you’ve just given birth. The weight of this new challenge is bearing down on your shoulders, and you just can’t handle it.
Under no circumstances should you feel embarrassed or ashamed to have postpartum depression. A lot of women go through a slump after giving birth, it’s almost natural to do this. I mean, you’ve just carried something inside you for nine months and then forced them out after hours of labor. Then, you have no respite as you immediately have to look after and care for this small child.
So, firstly, don’t kick yourself for feeling this way. Depression, in general, can be very hard to get over. The only slightly positive thing about postpartum depression is that you already know what’s causing your feelings. It’s the fact you’ve just given birth and feel rundown, mentally drained, and stressed. As a consequence, you can get over it by addressing the main issues. Have a look at the points in this guide, and you will soon break out of your postpartum slump.
Speak To People And Let Your Feelings Out
I literally just mentioned how you shouldn’t feel ashamed about going through postpartum depression. Sadly, many moms feel this way, and it makes them think they need to hide what they’re going through. They close themselves off from everyone else, and don’t express their emotions. I’m no psychologist, but you don’t need a diploma to tell that bottling your emotions is never a good idea. Ultimately, it will lead to an emotional breakdown, which just makes you feel worse.
Instead, do the complete opposite of this and be open about how you feel. Talk to people about what you’re going through, ask for advice, tips, and help. There’s nothing wrong with feeling like this, and other mothers will relate to it. Speak to friends and family who have been through the rough times, and they’ll give you the confidence you need to get through it. It’s the little things, like support from you friends, that really helps you. If you’re really self-conscious about talking to people about it, then confide in a psychiatrist instead. Or, simply writing how you feel down in a diary can help, or speaking into a camera on your own; anything to get the feelings out of your body.
Don’t Distance Yourself From Your Child
One of the reasons people struggle with postpartum depression is that they see their child as the problem. They think their kid hates them, normally because they won’t stop crying. This makes you think you’re a terrible mother, and then you start to resent your child because they hate you after everything you sacrificed to bring them into the world. As a result, you now feel guilty for feeling that way.
Right, to begin, it’s natural for babies to cry, they aren’t fully developed beings, and this world is entirely new to them. So, don’t blame yourself for this, and don’t blame your baby either. It’s all part of life, and they’ll soon grow out of it and become used to you and their surroundings. Secondly, if you want to get out of your slump, then you need to spend as much time with your child as possible. Don’t distance yourself, which is the normal reaction when you see them cry every time you touch them. Spend as much time with them as you can and the bond will start to build. You’ll realize how amazing your baby is, and your baby will become so used to you that they’ll cry when you’re not holding them!
Give Yourself A Makeover
Let’s be realistic, you can feel like absolute garbage after giving birth. You look in the mirror and feel like a shadow of your former self. You’ve got the baby weight to lose, but your general beauty seems like it’s faded. Is this all in your mind? Most probably, yes. But, there are naturally going to be signs of stress and worry in the lines on your face. A lot of mothers struggle to feel self-confident and beautiful after giving birth, which leads to anxiety whenever they go out, which ultimately leads to feelings of depression.
Thankfully, the solution to this is very easy; give yourself a well-deserved makeover! Completely refresh the way you look, go to a spa and get pampered with face masks and the whole works. This really goes a long way to making you feel beautiful in your skin once more. Maybe you’ll completely change up your look. If you have long hair, do something dramatic and get it cut into a short style like a bob. If you have curly hair, why not straighten it or just do something different! This makes you look and feel like a new person, which can help boost your self-confidence. Also, it’s almost symbolic of your move from your old life to your new life as a mother – it signifies change!
Yoga is both physically and mentally beneficial. Pexels photo, CC0.
Take Up Yoga
Yoga is one of the best things you can take up when you’re going through a difficult period after giving birth. It addresses so many of the causes of your depressed feelings. You’re super stressed as a new mother, you’re feeling ugly because of the added baby weight, and you have so many anxious thoughts swirling in your brain. With yoga, you can kill two or three birds with one stone.
You see, yoga is a lot more than doing simple stretches. It’s proven that many forms of yoga help you tone your muscles and get into good shape. This helps address any body issues you have after giving birth. Not only that, but yoga is so good at relaxing your mind. Many specialists recommend doing yoga if you’re feeling highly stressed, as it focuses on deep breathing and calming your soul. This helps get a handle on both your stressed and anxious feelings. I toyed with the idea of putting points in here about getting fit and de-stressing, but then I realized yoga covers it all. By all means, if you want to start exercising and joining a gym, then go for it. If you want to practice other means of de-stressing, then that will only help you further. But, if you want something relatively easy, that you can do in the home, and will benefit you in multiple ways, then yoga is the best choice.
Postpartum depression is very real, and it affects most new mothers. Remember, I can’t stress enough how important it is that you don’t feel ashamed by this!! Feeling embarrassed or ashamed will only fuel your negative feelings and lead you into a deeper slump. Accept you’re going through a tough time, embrace it, and then follow the advice laid out in this guide. It should help you climb out of your slump and start enjoying motherhood.