Perhaps you’ve come to realize that you’re not coping very well, whether that be that you’re finding it hard to get motivated enough to get out of bed in the morning or you don’t feel like being social with your friends anymore. Or, maybe you’re feeling a lot of frustration at work. These are all signs that you may need to get help. Unfortunately, a lot of people find asking for help to be difficult.
Being vulnerable isn’t easy
Often because it means being vulnerable, and that’s scary. But it’s also a relief to allow those walls to come down that may have been up for so long. When you’re not having to put on that brave face anymore, you can just feel. And get help to understand what’s going on, and how you can get better.
There are many ways to try to cope and manage how you feel. Here are a few examples.
Struggling with addiction
If you’ve been struggling with an addiction, whether it’s drugs or alcohol, you need to get help. The problem with substances like these is that you begin using them because you want to do so. They may help you forget things or mask the pain that you’re feeling, and that’s exactly what you want.
But there will come a time when you begin using these substances more and more. That’s because the effect starts to wear off as your body gets used to them. And, before you know it, you hit the stronger stuff and become highly dependent.
So, it’s extremely important that if you think you have a problem or other people point it out to you that you’re asking for help that you need. Speak to your doctor and see what they advise you to do. There are many wonderful recovery centers like The Recovery Village Ridgefield that offer you quality around-the-clock care and support, all while uncovering the deeper problem.
Talk about Your Feelings
If you have supportive loved ones around you, whether that be your family members or close friends, know that they care about you. Thus, they are there to listen when you’re ready to talk.
Sometimes you may not want to talk, which is fine. But it’s important that you don’t go too long without asking for help and opening up. Otherwise, you’ll sink lower and lower, and then it’s harder and harder to get back up.
If you don’t want to talk to people within your circle though, go to your doctor instead. They will refer you to a professional who has the training to be that ear. Therapy is very helpful because while you may not understand why you’re feeling this way, a professional may see other pieces to that puzzle that connect together in ways you don’t realize yet.
Lastly, if you still don’t feel ready for this, then talk to yourself, out loud. Or keep a journal, and write in it whenever you feel like it. Carry it around with you, and whenever you’re overcome with emotion, write it all down.
Great Read!
Such excellent advice here! Love it!
<3 Happy weekend, Didi
I’m a little late on the response here, but it was a great weekend. I hope yours has been just as lovely as mine! :)
I suffered from postpartum depression for six months before I finally summoned up the courage to ask for help. I wish I’d come across more messages like this!
I’m glad you’re feeling more like yourself again xxoo
Wonderful advice and beautifully said. I hope those who struggle with addiction come across this post and really take it in ❤
https://youtu.be/VAFzcB8HNPw
Another great post and topic, Christy! xoxo
Sending love <3
It’s not only okay…it’s important. Have you ever seen Brene Brown’s Ted Talk on Vulnerability? So worth the watch.
Great Ted Talk indeed!
Loved the post. Have you ever read Brene Brown? She has done some great writing on vulnerability.
Brene is amazing.
Good tips Christy!
I think at some point you need to let go of the idea that being vulnerable means being weak and do what’s right for you.
We all have insecurities.Your best interest should be in mind always so stop thinking about being vulnerable and start taking care of yourself more.
exactly.
The ability to be vulnerable has been my saving grace in life, especially considering the lack of support I’ve had in the family department. Asking for help can seem so daunting, but like anything else, it gets easier.
I’m so glad you reach out, and I am proud to be your friend!
It is hard to be vulnerable… I am a very private person, so I don’t like to talk much about my feelings and what I’m doing, but I really should work on that. It’s just me bottling most of my emotions up, which isn’t healthy.
I totally get it.
Great that you understand and support it ~ Wishing you a great day!
love your posts! :) please keep them up
You’re motivating me!
That’s a really sensitive post, Christy. My relationship with my husband helped me realize that showing weakness, or admitting a problem isn’t wrong. Yet it is a bitter pill to swallow… thank you for sharing this!
Gauging the negative impact is difficult and chancy. When I was young, showing vulnerability was not frightening. I had yet to see that human vultures would feast on it, whether in plain sight or behind a closed office door. Knowing when we can be less than a super hero, and when we need to fake invulnerability is so darned tricky! And absolutely — we have to be honest with ourselves, all the time. Hugs.
Ive always found writing my way through things has helped especially if there is no one around to share things with, but always better to find someone to talk to as well. It is hard to allow ourselves to admit we are struggling, but we all do at times
Asking for help can be difficult, but often more difficult before than after, when compassionate help is found.
Hi Christy,
you are doing a great job on your blog, and each post is unique and wonderful. It seems that the most important thing is to be honest with ourselves , right !
Another insightful post on life, Christy! Being vulnerable is nothing be ashamed of. We all have moments of uncertainty and feel like the world is against us, so feeling lost and without direction is a perfectly normal and natural feeling. Really like the point about talking about your feelings, and I find that it helps when you are talking to someone who is happy to be your sounding board and not something who aims to fix your problems. I have a few friends whom I talk to about my deepest feelings and they are very kind enough to not judge, not tell me to do this or that but give me their own opinions of my situation – which can help me see myself in a different light :)
Great post.
I can definitely relate with it. Whenever I’m low, I share everything with my friends and anything that’s bothering me goes off very soon.
I’m addicted to food and the internet!!!
Asking for help is difficult. I agree — talking to family and close friends is a great first step. Thanks for writing on another great topic.
I hate being vulnerable. It’s appropriate for some life situations. Still, I don’t like it. I’m working on it though.
very inspiring.very nice work you are doing