Life is tough, and you’re not alone if you face difficulties and challenges that overwhelm you. People hurt you by letting you down. Relationships fail. You might lose your job. Loved ones pass away. Disaster can strike at any time, and you are left to pick up the pieces. It can seem as if there is no hope, and trying to get back on the road to recovery is a long, slow process. You might ask yourself, “why me?” Unfortunately, nobody is immune to life’s problems, whether they are on a small or large scale. However, there is hope, even when you can’t see a way out of your struggles. Here are some suggestions for how to find hope when things seem hopeless.
Pursue a sense of peace
When problems arise, our normal reaction is to look for answers. Yet, sometimes there is no answer.
Instead of focusing your energy on why something happened to you, turn that focus around into finding peace instead. Accept what has happened to you, no matter how difficult it might be to do so. And find safe ways to move on.
Remember the saying, “accept what you cannot change; have the courage to change the things you can, and have the wisdom to know the difference.” These words are true.
So, if something can’t change, give yourself an emotional break, and fall into acceptance. Time does heal.
Distract yourself when looking for how to find hope
During difficult periods, it is normal to experience negative feelings. However, wallowing in them for too long is not good for your mental health.
Therefore, make an effort to engage in activities that make you happy. Spend time with people who will lift you out of sorrow, rather than who relish in it with you.
Make time for healthy living too. Doing so will strengthen both your body and mind.
In short, take a break from your emotions. While your problem may not go away, you may find renewed strength to deal with it.
When people are hurting, it can be easy to fall into destructive behaviors. This may include indulging in addictive behaviors, such as taking drugs or drinking excessive amounts of alcohol. Some people self-harm.
These are short-time solutions to find relief but will do nothing to help in the long-term. Instead, they will create further problems.
So, don’t shut yourself away and engage in any behavior that will bring you greater harm. If you fall into these traps, book yourself into a rehab center that specializes in the type of issue you are struggling with, speak to a medical professional, and consider counseling too.
There are people and places you can go to for help, without becoming trapped within your wounded existence. It’s part of how to find hope, even when feeling hopeless.
Forgiveness works in two ways. For starters, be merciful towards those who have hurt you. You don’t have to like these people, but becoming bitter and twisted in your attitude towards them is going to hurt you more than it hurts them.
Resist pursuing revenge too. It will only create greater chaos in your life. Instead, tell yourself that you forgive them, and practice this mantra until it becomes a reality.
Secondly, forgive yourself. Your situation may be down to your mistakes, and you may have hurt others in the process. You can’t change what has happened, but you can move on from it.
Apologize to those who you have hurt, whether they accept your apologies or not. Then, move forward with confidence, making an effort to change your present and future for the better. Shame will eat you up inside, so don’t let it define you.
How to find hope in seemingly hopeless times
It’s easy to read the words above and disregard them, especially when you are in a great deal of pain. Please don’t.
Seek help when you need to, and be kind to yourself and others. There is hope, and you do have the capability to move on. You may need to take things one day at a time, but life will get better eventually.
28 thoughts on “How to find hope when things seem hopeless”
Wonderful & HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
Awww I wish you a wonderful holiday <3
This is a great post, Christy. I have read it at a very opportune time for me.
I am so glad you told me that. This blog is meant to help people so that means a lot.. HUGS
This is absolutely beautiful Christy. If more of us took this advice there would be far fewer problems in the world.
Fantastic post full of encouraging tips Christy. Forgiveness is a particularly difficult one to master, but I’m living proof it can be done. <3
Very encouraging and practical. May I add trust in God.
Truly wonderful article and sound advice, Christy! 😄❤
I love this post.
A lovely post which in close to life and heart of understand it nicely
You forgot one point that is #practice hate and hate and hate and hate . The more you do it the more you grow self – absorbness 😉
Sound advice Christy. A favourite quote of mine that I read from one of Wayne Dyer’s books is “I choose peace over this.”
Clear and insightful post, Christy.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. It took my years to understand the importance of getting help and it is something that has made a world of difference
Hi dear Christy! Forgiveness is such a difficult thing to do and yet, an absolute necessity. I know we stay connected on an energy level to those we feel have done something wrong. It’s so vital to forgive. And by the way my dear, WordPress (in all its glory!) has interestingly unfollowed some of the blogs I follow (and I believe this has happened with yours). Huge apologies from the WordPress Line Gremlins (*grin*) but I’m back my dear! Cher xo
To forgive is to release yourself from anger.
Trust me forgiveness is not easy especially to a deceiver
Great advice! Distraction, taking an emotional break is an interesting point to me.
I was forced to take a break yesterday when the power went out for 12 hours. Candles and an old transistor radio worked wonders!
Thank goodness for hope.. encouraging and true thoughts.
I loved your thoughts on forgiveness, Christy. So many people hang on to their anger towards others, never realizing they’re only hurting themselves. Great post!
thank you for posting this amazing post Christy, it is so helpful. ❤
Lovely thoughts, Christy. Hugs on the wing.
Your posts reflect such genuine thoughts and words. Thank you.
Nice Post! The Pain of Hurt sometimes can be traumatic, We always need a helping hand to pull us up
points 1 and 2 ran true for my son, who has been living with physical pain for over a year. He just told me yesterday that he wants people to stop saying it will get better. For him he would rather deal with where he is now, instead of focusing on a hope.
Good evening 🐞