Don’t Go It Alone: It’s Okay to Ask For Help

Be honest with others that you're struggling

You don’t have to be a lone wolf. Friends and family can help you. Pexels, CC0 License.

There’s a strange attitude that many people seem to have drilled into them from a very early age that asking for help from the people around them is somehow a sign of weakness. As though the only way to live your life properly is to never need anyone else and be completely independent all of the time. Sure, there’s something a little bit romantic about the idea of being a lone wolf who doesn’t need anyone else to get by, but actually living your life like that is not only difficult but it’s also incredibly lonely.

A good life is one where you’re willing to reach out to other people and understand the importance of accepting help when it’s offered to you. However, because of how we’re all trained to want to be independent, it’s not always easy. In order to get past that, here are some ways to make it easier to ask for help.

Be honest about the problem

If something is wrong, then you’re never really going to get anywhere until you’re actually able to admit that fact and identify what the root of the problem is. One of the things that can strain many relationships, both romantic and otherwise, is the inability for people to be open and honest with each other when they’re struggling.

This isn’t just a matter of people not being truthful with each other, but it’s also a matter of not being honest with themselves either. Before you can reach out to the people around you, you’ve got to take the time to really understand what it is that’s causing the issue in the first place.

Point to solutions

It’s one thing being able to understand a problem; it’s something else entirely to know what the solution is. There are often plenty of different solutions, and many of them can only really work with the support of those around you, but if you don’t understand what you want to do in order to make things better, no one else can either.

Whether it’s understanding that you’ve reached the stage where something like methadone treatment is the only option left for you, or even simply being aware that you need to start cutting certain things and people out of your life, only when you know can you help the people around you understand how they can best support you. Your friends and family might want to help in any way they can, but until they understand what you really need from them, there isn’t much that they can do.

Learn to listen

It’s important to be aware that, even if they have your best interests at heart, sometimes the things that your friends and family have to say aren’t going to be easy to hear. After all, no one likes to hear that some of their problems are their own fault and responsibility.

But if you hide your head in the sand then things are only going to get worse. Make sure that you’re willing to listen to the people who care about you, even if the things that they have to say might sting.

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Do Your Back a Favor with the Right Furniture

A lot of people don’t take care of their back properly. Considering how important this part of the body is, this doesn’t make sense. You rely on your back to support a lot of your body. And, of course, it contains your spinal cord. In the present, you may not feel the effects of treating your back incorrectly. But, as time goes on, you’ll soon realize what a mistake you have made. To help you make the changes before it’s too late, this post will be going through some of the best furniture to preserve your back. And, it will be focusing on making it all look good at the same time.

Your back deserves quality furniture, from chairs to beds

Choose the furniture that helps your back feel good. Pexels, CC0 License.

To start, it’s good to think about the chairs that you use for long periods of time. If you sit at a desk, on a bed, or on the sofa for long periods of time, it’s important to make sure that you’re using the right tools to make it good for you back. There are loads of options out there to make chairs better for you back, though. The cheapest options are wedges. Usually made from foam, these tools can be used to adjust your posture in any chair. If you’re willing to spend more, though, you could buy some entirely new chairs. There are plenty of options out there which are designed not only to be good for you, but also to look good. So, you don’t have to worry about having to make compromises on the way your room’s look.

Your bed is one of the most important parts of this. A lot of people fail to consider how much time they actually spend in bed. Often, it will be around a third of your time. And, this means that it can have a huge strain on your back. Thankfully, finding the right bed is just a matter of piecing the right things together. For the frame, you don’t have to be too worried. This is more cosmetic than anything. Instead, you’re worried about the mattress you put on it. Looking at resources like Plushbed Mattress reviews will give you a good idea of the options you have available to you. You should always make sure you’re getting the best mattress you can afford. It’s not worth saving money when you’re considering your future health.

Standing desk for back care

A standing desk might be right for you. It can help your posture as you work. Pexels, CC0 License.

A lot of people don’t realize that the tables and desks they use can also have a big impact on their back. If you use a desk all day, it’s a good idea to look into options which can be raised to standing height. This gives you the chance to spend some of the day standing which is really good for your back. Along with this, you could also think about getting a footrest. Having your feet in the right position will naturally force your back into alignment. This is a great trick to help you with your posture while working.

Hopefully, this post will help you to start working harder on the way you treat your back. Furniture can make a huge difference to your body. And, so, making the most of what you have is essential if you want to have the best future you can.

Is Wonder Woman a Feminist Film: Yay or Nay?

I went and saw the “Wonder Woman” movie starring Gal Gadot this week with one of my besties and wanted to share a few points on it. After all, this feminist likes to write and, well, I sat and watched the shero for 2 hours and 21 minutes, so I had time to form some opinions. Namely that “Wonder Woman” is a feminist gem, and here’s why.

Feminist movie time with Gal Gadot

the “Wonder Woman” 2017 movie and feminism: Do the two get along? Flickr, CC BY 2.0.

Women Get Their Spotlight Too

From “Justice League” to “Thor: Ragnarok,” there has been a lot of testosterone on the big screen already in 2017. These are primarily male casts playing manly superheroes. Yes, Wonder Woman is in “Justice League, ” but she’s not the lead role. So when the trailers for Wonder Woman’s self-titled movie began to release on YouTube and TV, I was intrigued.

I wanted to see her take the reins in the lead role of an action movie based on a comic book character. Although I do recognize that “Logan” and “Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2,” both of which are also 2017 movies with superheroes, have females in them, their roles are not as big as Gal Gadot’s presence in “Wonder Woman.” Heck, the movie’s title is her name; the spotlight can’t get much bigger than that.

So, let’s dig into the plot of the film a bit, shall we?

Diana Prince and Steve Trevor

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